Recently, more friends are breaking up for various reasons, more often than not, character conflicts. However, no matter what makes them split, the process involved afterwards are very similar:
First Stage - It is all her/his fault (都是她/他的錯), the other person has caused the break up, may it be bad habit, character conflict, dirty underwear, leaving the toilet seat up, it is her/his fault!
Second Stage - It is all my fault (都是我的錯), after cool down for a while, you start to think, maybe, I am the one who cause all his/her outbursts, dirty underwear... Maybe I should have been more understanding, maybe I should have listened, maybe I should have cherished him/her more...
Third Stage - It is our fault (都是我們的錯), maybe it wasn't just you or him/her, maybe you didn't try hard enough, find a way to get communicate, maybe you didn't spend enough time to cuddle, to listen to each other...
Fourth Stage - It is no-one's fault (也許不是誰的錯), after a longer period of time, you realize, that was who you are, and who she/he is, none of you can change, it was not any one's fault that it didn't work out, it was just not the right people at the time...
Sometimes, first stage and second stage are interchangeable, usually depends on who initiated the breakup. And sometimes, people can go back and forth between First and Second stage. However, eventually, everyone moves on to fourth stage, then, you may really start to move on...
2 comments:
每一次的分手都不是任何人的錯..
"it was just not the right people at the time..." 真的是這樣的..
So far Ｉalways skip to the fourth stage first.....probably because I usually initiated the break-ups....for the reasons which is so un-dramatic that could sound like an execuse.
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