(500) days of summer

I am a big sucker for independent film or romantic stories with tons of conversation. This is a film like that.

It is a story about a young man meeting a girl (who he thought was the ONE), dating the girl, fighting with the girl, and breaking up with the girl. All in 500 days. The way the story was told was very interesting, in a non-chronological order, jumping back and forth between days.

Although it wasn't really a comedy, it does have a lot of light moments, for most men, you will find yourself thinking like the guy, and for most women, you must have done what the girl did.

In the end, things didn't work out, but they moved on. I had my 830 days of summer, where is my autumn?

相親

當年紀到一個程度的時候,身邊的人會比較貼心(雞婆)的替你擔心你的終身大事,我最近半年就有許多同事與長輩會比較關心我,從自己的姪女,到朋友的女兒,鄰居的女兒,到公司的年輕同事,通通都有.

有一次去乾洗西裝,還被老闆娘問結婚了沒,下一句就是我的朋友的女兒很好,很乖,作會計的...我差不多是落荒而逃,到現在還不敢去那乾洗店.

另外,就是中間人會問要怎麼介紹比較好,問我有沒有興趣去教會,問我有沒有碩士以上(怪不得她還單身),問我要不要先寄照片給她,問題多的不得了,現在也不怎麼敢打電話給那個中間人,怕她又問.

最扯的一次是昨天晚上,莫名其妙的來一通電話,一個媽媽的聲音,還問我記不記得她,我以為是客人還小心翼翼的回答,弄了半天,原來是一年前中午出門吃飯時,在公司旁遇到的師奶,一見面就跟我要名片,原來是隔壁餐廳的員工,常見到我,後來還打電話給我,問我結婚沒,有沒有女朋友,要不要出來聊天,和她女兒認識認識.那時都禮貌婉拒了.(因為這媽媽長得很愛國)天知道,一年後她又打來了,你結婚沒,有沒有女朋友(馬上裝有!),掛電話前還不忘問,我公司有沒有在請人...

真的...還沒有需要相親吧...

Bang Bang by K'naan

The summer is really here, and this song can be heard every where, love it!

Bang Bang by K'naan

She shot me, she shot me, bang, bang, she shot me
She shot me, she shot me, bang, bang, she shot me
She shot me, she shot me, bang, bang, she shot me
She shot me, she shot me, bang, bang

Earn it

It was on that bridge, when Captain Miller told the young Private Ryan to "Earn it". When I saw "Saving Private Ryan" for the first few times, I had no idea what Tom Hanks was saying, then I heard what he said, I still had no idea what he was trying to say.

Then, one day, I got it.

Private Ryan's life was saved by the sacrifice of many, Captain Miller wants to make sure he spend his life well, make sure he earned their sacrifices.

To this day, I still feel that I have underachieved, but at the same time I feel I haven't "earn it", many things that have happened to me, I haven't "earn it".

婚禮的現實面

來來去去幫幾個朋友的婚禮,對婚禮本身看了許多,但沒有好好計算過成本.到底,一個男人要準備多少錢才可以求婚呢?

先看看,女方有可能的要求,可以出國的家庭不一定是企業家,但多半比小康還要好一點,要把女兒嫁給你,而且現在沒有女人願意與男方父母住在一起的,所以最起碼你要有自己的地方住吧?租的,不行,要自己的.現在大溫地區的房價,四十萬的公寓也不是很大,但勉強可以接受,依照貸款比例,自己要拿出百分之二十,也就是八萬.有地方就要有家具,很省的去買,一萬跑不掉.

再來,要求婚也要有石頭,現在很多沒一克拉也不用談,也不可以買I或以下的,再加上結婚戒指,就算它加起來一萬五.

婚禮本身,在加國辦一定不會賺錢,台灣人沒習俗讓女方出錢,看大小,如果有十幾桌,大概賠一萬五到兩萬,這已經是買很少花,照相朋友價,吃不太貴的賠.還有要照婚紗吧?台灣照比較便宜,但差不多要十幾萬台幣,大約算四千好了.

小計一下:

頭期款 80,000
家具 10,000
戒指(訂婚加結婚) 15,000
婚禮 15,000
婚紗 4,000
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總計 124,000

這已經算的很粗了,連婚後的蜜月都沒算.

一定要解釋,三十幾萬的貸款,需要每月快兩千,在銀行核准的空間裡,你大約要賺八萬一年,當然有人會說房子可以兩個人供,但如果要一個人先批到貸款,就要八萬,如果以後想兩個人,也是要兩人共八萬,如果你車子是租的,還是有其他貸款,你還要賺更多.

嫁妝我是不大了解,聽說還是有家庭希望有這禮數,最近聽到的是五到十萬,當然是越多越好.

所以,一個男人要求婚之前,要有大約十五萬以上的現金(rrsp或被套牢的股票不算),年入九萬,請問有多少你認識的三十出頭的男人可以做得到?還是要家庭的資助,但像我或一些朋友,希望獨立一點,不要再跟家裡拿錢的,就要自己來了.

當然,房子的部分會是有最大調整的部分,但不弄好,也是未來兩個家庭的糾紛,還不如自己來.

我的男性朋友就說啦,幹嘛想那麼多,找個家庭想法不那麼傳統的就好啦,我反問他,你家那天的派對,看到的女生,有百分之多少是傳統的? 八十以上吧? 就算我聽他的,那又代表選擇上又多個條件,別人挑都來不及了,我還那麼多條件,我看我有牌等了...

I have nothing

One friend asked me what is a good wedding song, this took me a while, but I think this is a perfect song...

I have nothing by Whitney Huston

Share my life, take me for what I am
Coz I'll never change all my colors for you
Take my love, I'll never ask for too much
Just all that you are and everything that you do

I don't really need to look very much further
I don't want to have to go where you don't follow
I won't hold it back again, this passion inside
Can't run from myself
There's nowhere to hide

Well,don't make me close one more door
I don't wanna hurt anymore
Stay in my arms if you dare
Or must I imagine you there
Don't walk away from me...
I have nothing, nothing, nothing
If I don't have you, you, you, you, you, you...

You see through, right to the heart of me
You break down my walls with the strength of your love mmmmm...
I never knew love like I've known it with you
Will a memory survive, one I can hold on to

I don't really need to look very much further
I don't want to have to go where you don't follow
I won't hold it back again, this passion inside
I Can't run from myself
There's nowhere to hide
Your love I'll remember, forever

Don't make me close one more door
I don't wanna hurt anymore
Stay in my arms if you dare
Or must I imagine you there
Don't walk away from me...
I have nothing, nothing, nothing...

if i don't have you,oohh... Thank you, thank you very much!

Being happy is easy, being lonely isn't...

Years ago, there was a good TV show called "Ally McBeal", yes, it is a program for chicks, but I enjoy watching them, like sex and the city and friends.

There were many famous quotes in that show, for example, the messed up main character Ally said once "I don't want what I want, and I want what I don't want, and to complicate it even more, I don't even know what I want or don't want!", come to think of it, I think this quote accurately describes all women, well, at least most women I know.

The one I remember the most was by one of the supporting character, she has a perky personality, always joyful, when Ally asked her why she is happy all the time, she said to Ally, "Being happy is easy, being lonely isn't..."

I guess we all feel lonely from time to time, and it is often hard to describe, especially when everything is going well. But, there is something important I should add after that quote, "being alone doesn't mean lonely, and you might still feel lonely even when you are with someone."

最喜歡還是最適合

上個週末,遇到了高中的朋友,她也是我最好朋友的青梅竹馬前女友,歲月在她身上沒有留下太多痕跡,她還是老樣子.

我們聊到最近的感情生活,都還是空白.

聊著聊著,我們就聊起了一個謎思,我們現在找的對象到底是不是最喜歡的,還是最適合的.我們都已經到這個年紀了,喜歡對象都很清楚,有什麼樣的個性會吸引自己也很了解,但就一直沒有感情的著陸點,至少沒有一個可以論及婚嫁的.想想,談了那麼多戀愛,主角都沒換過,應該自己需要做些調整吧.

我老闆上次跟我聊的時候,跟我說,找老婆不是要找最漂亮,最優秀的,而是找最適合你,人品好的.

他講的有理,但好像符合的人我沒有興趣,喜歡的人又沒法和她長久,到底要找自己最喜歡的,用心的去等比較容易,還是找適合自己的,比較容易?

我問她,離開她的初戀之後,有沒有後悔過? 她說沒有,我相信她,人都是會長大的,因為如果問我,我的答案也是一樣....

割地賠償

所有的分手,都有輸贏,無論你們再心平氣合,再怎麼和平分手,一定有段時間,你會希望自己過得比他好,這樣說有點不夠厚道,但同時間,你也不希望他過得太不好,因為你會覺得不捨.所以,要避免那種感覺,最要就是不要過問,無論答案是什麼,你都不會喜歡.尤其不可以在你明知道他過得不好的時候,還去問他,"你過得好不好?",來自於自己的前男女友的問候,有時比他直接罵你濫人還難受.

那要怎麼作呢?割地賠償吧.

把平常和他較好的朋友們讓給他吧,一段時間不要聯絡比較好.沒錯,割地賠償是有點自私,有點幼稚的舉動,但有其必須.

第一,你要為朋友想,他們有時出去,還要想一下這次要請誰,下次要請誰,不要讓他們傷腦筋,都不要去.第二,朋友會想告訴你他過得如何,就算他們不想,你也想問,反正答案你不會喜歡,就別麻煩了吧.

分手並不代表不愛了,也並不代表不在乎,有時舊的情緒來,自己會難受的,何必?

至於割地賠償會多久,看情況吧. 未來還是朋友的時候,一定會覺得今天這樣做有點小家子器,但如果不這樣做,可能連作朋友的機會都沒有...

Girl from West Virginia...

With loud music in the background, she sat on top of me, started her slow dance of seduction. It was really dark in the room, I had hard time seeing her face. She has the face of a doll, with perfectly tanned skin. Then she took off her top, and brush her chest against my face, her skin feels cold to touch. And when she smiled at me, her eyes are cold to watch. I asked her where she is from, she said West Virginia. I had no idea where that is, but I knew it was a place far away. Dear Girl from West Virginia, I forgot to ask your name, I hope it isn't Jenny, and I wish you well...

SHE TOLD ME THAT HER NAME WAS JENNY
SHE LIVED IN A CABIN ON THE HILL
IN A COAL MINING TOWN IN WEST VIRGINIA
I LOVE JENNY AND I GUESS I ALWAYS WILL

I THOUGHT I WOULD ALWAYS WANT TO RAMBLE
I THOUGHT I WOULD NEVER SETTLE DOWN
WELL I MEET HER IN THE HILLS OF WEST VIRGINIA
IN THE HEART OF A COAL MINING TOWN

I LIKE THE SOUND OF THE COAL TRUCKS
BACK IN THE HILLS A HAULING COAL
WITH THE BEAUIFUL MOUNTAINS ALL AROUND ME
WEST VIRGINIA YOU HAVE WON MY HEART AND SOUL

IN THE HEART OF A COAL MINING TOWN

七月七日晴...

今天是七月七日,並不是什麼特別的日子,只是有點寂寞...許慧欣的歌,送給單身的妳...

說了再見是否就能不再想念　
說了抱歉是否就能理解了一切
眼淚代替你親吻我的臉　
我的世界忽然冰天白雪
五指之間還残留你的昨天　
一片一片怎麼拼貼完全

7月7日晴　忽然下起了大雪　
不敢睁開眼　希望是我的幻覺
我站在地球邊　眼睁睁看著雪　
覆蓋你來的那條街

7月7日晴　黑夜忽然變白天　
我失去知覺　看見相愛的極限
我望著地平線　天空無際無邊　
聽不見你道别

Life on the dance floor...

So here I am, at Sin City once again. This time is different, I come here as a single guy venturing into night life, first time in Vegas.

We were at the hottest club in town, Tryst. Even before we went in, my friends and I saw Dawyne Howard, my friends saw another NBA player Paul Peirce as well. I did see lots of hot girls, from Blondes to Asians, you name it, they have it.

The club is big, packed with people, you can't really dance in it, 'cause it was really crowded, you can't really order any drinks either, 'cause there were 6 rows of people surrounding the bar.

So, we tried to reach the far end of the club, an outdoor waterfall, when squeezing our way there, I am pretty sure somebody touch my waist and butt, but I am pretty sure they were guys. Also, somebody pour some of his/her drinks on the back of my shirt, sticky and cold... nice...

It was more and more like a big crowded place of life, we see beautiful faces, everyone wants something out of this, and everyone is stuck in this place. I just wanted to get out, 'cause you weren't there....