Come with me

come with me to the island of loneliness
share with me something you want to confess

sing with me like there is no one listening
dance with me like there is no one watching

come with me to a place call cloud nine
you don't have to spend the night

祝妳 終生美麗

妳曾唱這首歌給我,說我讓妳覺得美麗,如今,妳將嫁為人婦,我把這首歌送還給妳,祝妳終生美麗....

終生美麗 鄭秀文

塔尖仍舊記得 這擁抱極美好
愛有千斤重 重過無涯的鐵路
你那手指再笨拙再粗 肌膚也被你修補
從前那一位 永未能做到

是你去喚醒我 努力才能被愛慕
但回頭目睹你 為我好自己不好
我這幸運兒合著眼睛 只得你沉重身影
如果這記意非愛情 連天都不會太高興

莫非可終生美麗 才值得勾勾手指發誓
對你不止感激敬禮 當你知己才是虛偽
莫非多一分秀麗 才值得分享我的一切
給我自信 給我地位 這叫幸福 不怕流逝
任他們多漂亮 未及你矜貴

記憶無論再輕 輕不過脈搏聲
靠你的手臂 抱我人潮中暢泳
我這幸運兒幸運到一轉身找得到你
為我打氣 如果可抱起這愛情
連天都會替我高興

莫非可終生美麗 才值得勾勾手指發誓
對你不止感激敬禮 當你知記才是虛偽
莫非多一分秀麗 才值得分享我的一切
給我自信 給我地位 這叫幸福 不怕流逝
任他們多漂亮 未及你矜貴

因有自信 所以美麗
使我自卑都放低 在半空之中親你
不管身世

給未來的妳

也許我們還沒見面,也許妳就在我身邊,但希望妳多了解我.

我是一個大男孩,對很多事情都很有興趣,請妳先原諒我有時的幼稚,我不是裝傻,我是真的有興趣知道.我表現的信心滿滿,事實上,我最在意妳的想法,妳中肯的建議會幫助我許多.

我過去的那些情史,妳可能有聽我提過一些,甚至聽他人說過,不要太在意,我是很專情的人,相信你也感受得到.

有的時候,我可能表現的很大男人,會先幫妳決定事情,有時候,我又會要求平等.可能在某些事情上,我還是覺得該男人做,但我覺得現代女性有很大的機會和優勢,我會支持妳去追求妳的事業或興趣,我會支持妳有自己的朋友群,我不介意妳會不會煮飯,我們可以一起來.我不想要妳崇拜我,只要支持我就好,在我懶惰的時候,提醒我,在我失意的時候,讓我靠一下.

我工作的領域是一個高壓的環境,有時可能業績不理想,有時可能收入不穩定,但我有信心,我會成功.但在這條路上,還需妳多多包涵,我會儘量把工作情緒留在公司. 我有時就會去幫忙主持一類,或是參加社團,相信我不是為了名或利,我是真的想要為社會出些力,尤其是台灣人的圈子. 妳如果沒興趣,不需要和我一起,但希望妳能支持我參與的原因.

生活的細節我可能表現得很隨性,有可能自己住慣了,有時還需要妳的提醒. 我要是懶得運動,如果妳能和我一起去,我會很開心的.

有時我可能表現的很固執,但我是可以好好講的,我不是輕言放棄的人,也請妳不要隨便把分手掛嘴上,我會很當真也會難過的.有時我們吵架,我會一通電話都沒有,我不是冷血,也不是愛面子,因為我真的不會處理,可能是我逃避面對的方式,我會盡量改變溝通的方式.

有人說,愛上一個人是因為喜歡他的優點,會嫁給一個人是因為可以忍受她的缺點. 希望,未來的妳可以愛上我也可以忍受我的缺點...

The Michael I know

The news of Michael Jackson passing away was a shock to people around the world. Internet traffic was so intense for people trying to find out if it was a hoax, some websites have actually crashed.

I remember the first time I heard his songs were just before I came to Canada, at a 7-eleven, it was "remember the time". It was pretty good, then, I came to Canada, I could listen to his song for hours. From "Black or White" to "Heal the world".

MJ was many things, he was the king of pop, he was an accused child molester, he was the most well known american in the early 90s, he was a weirdo, he was black, then he was white....

He tried really hard to convince us that it didn't matter if he was black or white (it did matter), tried to convince us that he can get married and have kids too (although both done in the weirdest way), he even tried to convince us that instead of sleeping with kids, he could take care of his own kid (by dangling the kid outside of a hotel balcony)

However, the time has proven that Michael is just another human-being with many flaws, but his legacy will live on... At least for our generation, we can tell our kids, Michael was that connection to our teen years, like Elvis was to our parents...

Why do people get married?

Years ago, when a friend was getting married, she asked me, "why do people get married?", "for love?", I answered.

Then she said, Jacquelin, JFK's wife once said, "first time you marry for love, then for money, finally, for companionship". Jacquelin shocked the world by marrying a Greek tycoon a few years after JFK was assassinated, it was obvious that it was for a sense of security. Think Princess Diana for a second, she was involved with a rich man when she died, she too, was looking for that sense of security. Money is just the tool to provide that security.

It was weird for my friend to mention that.

This morning, I saw that Farrah Fawcett has passed away. Although she was a 70s and 80s sex icon, I have no recollection of who she was. The interesting story is that she has been romantically involved with Ryan O'Neal since 1980s, with him, they had a son. However, they were never married.

Mr. O'Neal went on the air to tell the world that Ms. Fawcett had agreed to marry him a few days before her death. If it did happen, can you imagine what the wedding would be like? Beautifully sad...

Hero

There's a hero if you look inside your heart
You don't have to be afraid of what you are.
There's an answer if you reach into your soul
and the sorrow that you know will melt away

And then a hero comes along
with the strength to carry on
and you cast your fears aside
and you know you can survive.

So, when you feel like hope is gone
look inside you and be strong
and you'll finally see the truth
that a hero lies in you.

It's a long road when you face the world alone,
No one reaches out a hand for you to hold.
You can find love if you search within yourself
and the emptiness you felt will disappear.

And then a hero comes along
with the strength to carry on
and you cast your fears aside
and you know you can survive.

So, when you feel like hope is gone
look inside you and be strong
and you'll finally see the truth
that a hero lies in you.

oh....Lord knows dreams are hard to follow,
But don't let anyone tear them away.
Hold on, there will be tomorrow,
In time you'll find the way

And then a hero comes along
with the strength to carry on
and you cast your fears aside
and you know you can survive.

So, when you feel like hope is gone
look inside you and be strong
and you'll finally see the truth
that a hero lies in you
that a hero lies in ... you
mmmm that a hero lies in.....you.

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When i heard this song long time ago, i always thought Mariah was singing about a guy saving her from some kind of depression. In fact, it is an empowering song for everyone out there who has been hurt and down, look inside for that hero to save the day!

玻璃心情

昨夜的回憶像星空
有點閃爍 有點迷戀 但又抓不到

今天的天氣像心情
有點浮躁 有點溫暖 但又有點冷

今天的心情像玻璃
有點透明 有點脆弱 但又有點硬

是不是這樣的心情
懷念的是過去的自己 而不是想妳

是不是沒有妳
我才停留在幸福與不幸福中間

是不是走到累的時候
你會等我找到妳?

夢醒時分

你說你愛了不該愛的人 你的心中滿是傷痕
你說你犯了不該犯的錯 心中滿是悔恨
你說你嚐盡了生活的苦 找不到可以相信的人
你說你感到萬分沮喪 甚至開始懷疑人生
早知道傷心總是難免的 你又何苦一往情深
因為愛情總是難捨難分 何必在意那一點點溫存
要知道傷心總是難免的 在每一個夢醒時分
有些事情你現在不必問 有些人你永遠不必等

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送給剛分手的朋友們,起床的時候最難熬,需要的時候,就打電話給我吧.

4 stages of breaking up

Recently, more friends are breaking up for various reasons, more often than not, character conflicts. However, no matter what makes them split, the process involved afterwards are very similar:

First Stage - It is all her/his fault (都是她/他的錯), the other person has caused the break up, may it be bad habit, character conflict, dirty underwear, leaving the toilet seat up, it is her/his fault!

Second Stage - It is all my fault (都是我的錯), after cool down for a while, you start to think, maybe, I am the one who cause all his/her outbursts, dirty underwear... Maybe I should have been more understanding, maybe I should have listened, maybe I should have cherished him/her more...

Third Stage - It is our fault (都是我們的錯), maybe it wasn't just you or him/her, maybe you didn't try hard enough, find a way to get communicate, maybe you didn't spend enough time to cuddle, to listen to each other...

Fourth Stage - It is no-one's fault (也許不是誰的錯), after a longer period of time, you realize, that was who you are, and who she/he is, none of you can change, it was not any one's fault that it didn't work out, it was just not the right people at the time...

Sometimes, first stage and second stage are interchangeable, usually depends on who initiated the breakup. And sometimes, people can go back and forth between First and Second stage. However, eventually, everyone moves on to fourth stage, then, you may really start to move on...

戀上蝴蝶

前一陣,晚上看的綜藝節目比參加的派對多,見的藝人比朋友還多,有些藝人看久了,還會有點感覺,好像自己朋友一樣.蝴蝶姐姐成了我前陣的暗戀對象.雖然她有夠瘦,聲音超小孩的,但天真無邪,反應又快,現在一天不見會有失落感.應該不是暗戀對象吧,應該是我反璞歸真,跟小孩一樣了,天天看幼幼台算了.我甚至連她的美容節目都在看,中毒有深哦...

最近,我又喜歡上艾利斯,昨天聽朋友說她還是溫哥華回去的,怪不得很有親切感,比起蝴蝶姐姐,她就成熟多了,還是今年男人幫宅誌,說錯了,是雜誌,票選第五名的性感女星,Brian,你有情敵了...

天阿...我該多出去走走了...

有關寂寞

人是群體的動物,不能孤單太久.前一陣,跟爸爸提到覺得有點寂寞,他叫我多做運動,多看書,寂寞也會習慣.當下的感覺,像是年輕的時候問媽媽,"怎樣才有自信?",因為我媽是個很有自信的人,也不知道哪裡來的,絕對不是來自家人(我自己有深刻經驗),她居然叫我多培養興趣,多看書,成績好一點,就會有自信.後來明白,多興趣,成績好一點,可能會幫助自信,但在我們家,要有自信要有朋友,因為我父母的交友不廣,也很被動.

回到寂寞,我承認我是一個不甘寂寞的人,但要我宅,我還是可以宅的很怡然自得,ok,也許不是怡然自得,但可以過的去....

直到上個禮拜我才赫然明白,我爸說的不是建議,而是他活生生在過的日子,來加國幾年,我爸就過了幾年一個人的日子,快二十年了吧,雖然他沉默寡言,平常我們也很少聯絡,但他上一次因為奶奶住院,從醫院打來電話的那一次之後,發現他真的很寂寞,想一想很替他難過,人一輩子有幾個二十年,一個不開心的婚姻,兩個小孩,有工作的時候還可以加班度過,現在退休後,兒子也只有一年看他幾天.

記得年輕的時候,我還說過要把他接過來退休,他也只有一笑.我現在卡在這裡,說什麼接他過來? 記得年輕的時候,說要買敞篷車載奶奶兜風...

也許是看的人覺得寂寞,當事人不寂寞,但我不想和他們一樣,我不甘寂寞,但我想幸福,不能為消除寂寞而換來不幸福...

Let's make a night to remember

I have been blessed to be surrounded by friends in my past birthdays, with my love ones. This year, i might do it a little differently, as there is no one special to hold hands with...

When I hear the news that Bryan Adams is going to be in town the day before my bday, I have decided to celebrate this year by going to his concert.

Younger friends might not know this Canadian Singer, he was very popular in the mid 90s, about the time I came to Vancouver, about the time I tried to grow up.

Now, I have grown up, wouldn't it be perfect to celebrate that with the music i grew up with?

I have always said, if there is one concert i am going, it would be Bryan Adams, but sadly, i used up my first concert experience to "il divo". yes, the dude singer group for old ladies. But this will be different, this will be a night to remember!


I love the way ya look tonight
With your hair hangin down on your shoulders
N I love the way ya dance your slow sweet tango
The way ya wanna do everything but talk
And how ya stare at me with those undress me eyes
Your breath on my body makes me warm inside

Lets make out - lets do something amazing
Lets do something thats all the way
Cuz Ive never touched somebody like the way I touch
Your body
Now I never want to let your body go...

Lets make a night - to remember
From january - to december
Lets make love - to excite us
A memory - to ignite us
Lets make honey baby - soft and tender
Lets make sugar darlin - sweet surrender
Lets make a night - to remember - all life long

I love the way ya move tonight
Beads of sweat drippin down your skin
Me lying here - n you lyin there
Our shadows on the wall and our hands everywhere

Lets make out - lets do something amazing
Lets do something thats all the way
Cuz Ive never touched somebody like the way I touch
Your body
Now I never want to let your body go...

Lets make a night - to remember
From january - to december
Lets make love - to excite us
A memory - to ignite us
Lets make honey baby - soft and tender
Lets make sugar darlin - sweet surrender
Lets make a night - to remember - all life long

I think about ya all the time
Cant you see you drive me outta my mind
Well Im never holdin back again
Ya I never want this night to end
Cuz Ive never touched somebody like the way I touch
Your body
Now I never want to let your body go...

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I will be able to sing to most of his songs from 90s, and i won't be going alone, but with a dude!

Driving

I was fortunate to have a chance to drive to Surrey yesterday, left Richmond around 345pm. Google map told me it would have taken 34 min to get there. My tomtom gps told me 36 min.

They were overly optimistic, as rush hour in lower mainland starts 330pm, and doesn't end until 7pm. I got stuck before New West, got stuck at New West, got stuck before Surrey, and got stuck at Surrey.

I didn't know why my stupid Tomtom took me through New West, but it did. It was a record breaking-unusually-warm day, and it was hard for me to be patient when I know my client is waiting.

It does feel that everyone already you was crazy too, cutting in and out, not signalling, honking, alhtough not to the extend of Asia, I still have to say, it was a lot better back then, when I got my driver's license last century. People were friendlier, more patient, and almost more cheerful even in rush hour traffic.

I suppose it is the growing pain you cannot avoid, every cities in Lower mainland is getting bigger, and crowdier. My office has been surrounded with construction sites for the past 2 years. no kidding, skytrain station in the back, apartments in front and on the left.

And I got to client's house, 515pm, a freaking 1 hour and 30 min for a 30km drive!