Beatles were popular before I was born, it was in an era when hippies were around promoting peace, and wars are killing people outside of North America.
To the present time, it seems like nothing has really changed through the years.
Except the hippies back then started wars which are killing people again outside of North America.
The melody and lyrics of "Imagine" by John Lennon is quite simple, yet still quite memorable. I have a strong suspision that John was on something when he wrote this song to make it so lucid...
Imagine there's no Heaven
It's easy if you try
No hell below us
Above us only sky
Imagine all the people
Living for today
Imagine there's no countries
It isn't hard to do
Nothing to kill or die for
And no religion too
Imagine all the people
Living life in peace
You may say that I'm a dreamer
But I'm not the only one
I hope someday you'll join us
And the world will be as one
Imagine no possessions
I wonder if you can
No need for greed or hunger
A brotherhood of man
Imagine all the people
Sharing all the world
You may say that I'm a dreamer
But I'm not the only one
I hope someday you'll join us
And the world will live as one
As a Taiwanese, I get 3 wishes on my birthdays, and I have to tell people the first two. The first wish has always been "world peace". yap, like what's in the movie "Miss Congeniality". Somehow, that wish never came true...
1/31/2007
1/26/2007
挑食...
「你是不是很容易喜歡一個人？」
昨天開車載一位朋友去拿車的時候，她突然問了一個我頭皮發麻的問題。
「不是，因為我很挑食，但我一找到我愛吃的東西，我就會一直吃一樣的東西，所以要我喜歡一個人不容易，但喜歡上就很容易了…」
正在想我邏輯有沒有問題的同時，她就自言自語的說，
「我不是很容易喜歡一個人…」
「為什麼？」
「因為要感覺對才行…」
「阿什麼是對的感覺？」
「不知道呢…反正不是外表就對了」
那不是跟我講得一樣，都是挑食，只是怪到自己的感覺而已…
有時想，我見過的許多男女，不是挑食，就是被動，但很多被動的女生都說自己是挑食，但說來說去，好像沒有一個說得定自己喜歡吃什麼。如果不知道自己喜歡吃什麼，還算挑食嗎？還算是自願式的絕食，因為沒有人給她餵。
我覺得已經二十一世紀了，女生要把握自己的幸福，有喜歡就不要ging啦，再三挑四挑，給自己一堆藉口，妳的青鳥也不會自己報到。記得，你要對自己的幸福負責任！
昨天開車載一位朋友去拿車的時候，她突然問了一個我頭皮發麻的問題。
「不是，因為我很挑食，但我一找到我愛吃的東西，我就會一直吃一樣的東西，所以要我喜歡一個人不容易，但喜歡上就很容易了…」
正在想我邏輯有沒有問題的同時，她就自言自語的說，
「我不是很容易喜歡一個人…」
「為什麼？」
「因為要感覺對才行…」
「阿什麼是對的感覺？」
「不知道呢…反正不是外表就對了」
那不是跟我講得一樣，都是挑食，只是怪到自己的感覺而已…
有時想，我見過的許多男女，不是挑食，就是被動，但很多被動的女生都說自己是挑食，但說來說去，好像沒有一個說得定自己喜歡吃什麼。如果不知道自己喜歡吃什麼，還算挑食嗎？還算是自願式的絕食，因為沒有人給她餵。
我覺得已經二十一世紀了，女生要把握自己的幸福，有喜歡就不要ging啦，再三挑四挑，給自己一堆藉口，妳的青鳥也不會自己報到。記得，你要對自己的幸福負責任！
1/23/2007
Dine out in 2007
Been to 8 dine outs this year... I think I have burnt a hole in my wallet.
Le Cracodile - second try, went for a friend's 19th bday, always like their service, couldn't remember what I had, but I was really full, which was rare for french dine out.
Nu - second try, had the lobster menu, appy was good, but the main course is on the salty side, great company though, some good mix of new friends, high school friends and college friends.
Cannery - first time there, the sexy girl I went with recommended mussels, which were great, chorizo and the sauce, so good. The dine out? It was okay at best, the main course sablefish and salmon were dry, and ling cod appy was better, actually, the dessert was probably the best out of the 3. Second thought, the company was better than the food in my opinion, had great conversation.
Provence - third time there, went there by accident with friends for brunch, always love their crepe, cheese and asparagus, good stuff!
O'doul's - my favourite restaurant in 2006, went many times for different occasions, went there for a friend's bday, great value, the tenderloin was in generous portion and the dessert was sooo good. and im usually not a dessert person. I suspect it will still be my favourite in 2007.
Lift Bar and Grill - first time, went with my banker friend, good ambience, food portions are tiny comparing to O'doul's, for the appy, we were guessing if it was sauce under the slice of duck or it was a duck soup... we drank it like soup anyways. The sea bass was good, although it wasn't as good as the bass at C a few years back, but i could be starving back at C.
Bluewater - first time, was impressed by the size of the restaurant, it also features a nice list of oysters and sushi bar... yes, a sushi bar. We ordered the dine out menu, the appy was interesting, the main course was forgettable, Char was good, but couscous was only okay, the dessert was not too exciting, lemon tart and chocolate mousse.
Aurora - first time, small place but very cozy, the martini is expensive and weird, it was a sour cloudy watery thingie, the appy is interesting, I had a plate of beets, main course was not bad, especially the veal cheek.
The best appy - mussels at Cannery, but it wasn't on Dine out, if Dine out, Salmon mousse at Bluewater.
The best main - tenderloin at O'doul, great sauce, great meat... hm...
The best dessert - sorbet at Cannery, nice portion, great flavours
Best 2007 dine out - O'doul's
Most dissapointed 2007 dine out - Cannery, just because I was so looking forward to it.
Total friends included in the dine out - 38
I was suppose to go to Cadero and West, but I want to prevent myself from a heart attack when I open my credit card statment next week.
Le Cracodile - second try, went for a friend's 19th bday, always like their service, couldn't remember what I had, but I was really full, which was rare for french dine out.
Nu - second try, had the lobster menu, appy was good, but the main course is on the salty side, great company though, some good mix of new friends, high school friends and college friends.
Cannery - first time there, the sexy girl I went with recommended mussels, which were great, chorizo and the sauce, so good. The dine out? It was okay at best, the main course sablefish and salmon were dry, and ling cod appy was better, actually, the dessert was probably the best out of the 3. Second thought, the company was better than the food in my opinion, had great conversation.
Provence - third time there, went there by accident with friends for brunch, always love their crepe, cheese and asparagus, good stuff!
O'doul's - my favourite restaurant in 2006, went many times for different occasions, went there for a friend's bday, great value, the tenderloin was in generous portion and the dessert was sooo good. and im usually not a dessert person. I suspect it will still be my favourite in 2007.
Lift Bar and Grill - first time, went with my banker friend, good ambience, food portions are tiny comparing to O'doul's, for the appy, we were guessing if it was sauce under the slice of duck or it was a duck soup... we drank it like soup anyways. The sea bass was good, although it wasn't as good as the bass at C a few years back, but i could be starving back at C.
Bluewater - first time, was impressed by the size of the restaurant, it also features a nice list of oysters and sushi bar... yes, a sushi bar. We ordered the dine out menu, the appy was interesting, the main course was forgettable, Char was good, but couscous was only okay, the dessert was not too exciting, lemon tart and chocolate mousse.
Aurora - first time, small place but very cozy, the martini is expensive and weird, it was a sour cloudy watery thingie, the appy is interesting, I had a plate of beets, main course was not bad, especially the veal cheek.
The best appy - mussels at Cannery, but it wasn't on Dine out, if Dine out, Salmon mousse at Bluewater.
The best main - tenderloin at O'doul, great sauce, great meat... hm...
The best dessert - sorbet at Cannery, nice portion, great flavours
Best 2007 dine out - O'doul's
Most dissapointed 2007 dine out - Cannery, just because I was so looking forward to it.
Total friends included in the dine out - 38
I was suppose to go to Cadero and West, but I want to prevent myself from a heart attack when I open my credit card statment next week.
1/22/2007
Top posts in 2006
For those who are relatively new to my blog, welcome!
These are my favourite posts in 2006,
12/01/05
失戀是什麼感覺...
12/04/05
一個有關快樂的故事...
02/25/06
討厭連續劇
03/05/06
她在那裡...
03/19/06
人在衰的時候...
05/20/06
要賺很多很多的錢...
05/22/06
給自己一個機會去愛...
05/30/06
As matter of Exs...
05/31/06
觸摸一下回憶…
06/07/06
一年換十年的愛情…
06/24/06
SFO a few months later...
06/27/06
Be married, be merry…
07/03/06
稻香
08/14/06
玻璃鞋
08/25/06
Summer of 2006
09/06/06
破鏡…
10/20/06
They are young, successful, and married...
10/24/06
Why go and why stay?
11/15/06
給還是男孩的男人...
11/18/06
給想不開的女人...
12/11/06
溫哥華的雪
1/17/06
Morally confused...
1/18/06
My name is Sammy – a tragic truth story
and of course, my first attempt in a chinese short story,
http://girlseyes.blogspot.com/
These are my favourite posts in 2006,
12/01/05
失戀是什麼感覺...
12/04/05
一個有關快樂的故事...
02/25/06
討厭連續劇
03/05/06
她在那裡...
03/19/06
人在衰的時候...
05/20/06
要賺很多很多的錢...
05/22/06
給自己一個機會去愛...
05/30/06
As matter of Exs...
05/31/06
觸摸一下回憶…
06/07/06
一年換十年的愛情…
06/24/06
SFO a few months later...
06/27/06
Be married, be merry…
07/03/06
稻香
08/14/06
玻璃鞋
08/25/06
Summer of 2006
09/06/06
破鏡…
10/20/06
They are young, successful, and married...
10/24/06
Why go and why stay?
11/15/06
給還是男孩的男人...
11/18/06
給想不開的女人...
12/11/06
溫哥華的雪
1/17/06
Morally confused...
1/18/06
My name is Sammy – a tragic truth story
and of course, my first attempt in a chinese short story,
http://girlseyes.blogspot.com/
1/21/2007
自大的人
之前提過交朋友的時候，很怕遇到無趣的人。還有另一種人我也是很怕遇到的，就是自大的人。
剛見到自大的人，不見得給人的感覺是他很有自信，反而是一有點高傲，和他講話必須要戰戰兢兢的，如果說了什麼不重聽的話，他可能兩眼一翻，你今天別想再和他講到話，要不，他就和妳辯到底。辯論議題是沒什麼問題，但如果講兩句，你就覺得他好像把你當小孩在講話，或把你當白痴。恭喜你，你可能遇上了自大的人。
自大的人通常很自滿，對自己某些一技之長很有信心，(有些可能連一技之長都沒有)，說起話來長輩十足，你應該極惶恐的態度去接受他可以給你的珍貴知識，(雖然你知道是錯的)。這種自滿不見得來自於完全的自信，相反的，很多時候他們是很沒有自信，很多都是自我催眠和自我膨脹的結果。此乃”過度的自卑造成過度的自信”。
另一種自大的人是天生的，嚴格說，應該是家庭背景的關係。通常，他們家裡都有些銀子，在成長的過程中，沒見過什麼風雨，(和其他中學生械鬥、撞爛名車不算)，見慣了旁人對他的奉承，就算出了社會，那公子味、格格味去不了，倒是一種家庭背景所建立的自信還在。不過，他們的樓上，兩個耳朵中間的，通常沒裝太多時用的東西。
我因為工作和社團的關係，有機會見過很多成功的前輩，他們大部分都是很誠懇、很虛心的人。令人啼笑皆非的是，我開始越來越常見到一些年輕的朋友們，(或很多不大年輕的朋友)對自己現在的情況過於滿足，對自己的能力過度信心，不削他人的意見。我看了真的不明白，他們的自大到底哪裡來?他們沒見過比他們更成功、更努力的人嗎?
我和自大的人對話，是很累的事情，不但一面要對他一戳及破的自信有所保留，把自己尖酸刻薄的那面藏好，另一面還要忍受他接近幼稚的自滿。好加在，我不大有機會和他們一對一。另外，我也需要提醒自己，不要讓自己也成了他人眼中自大的人。
剛見到自大的人，不見得給人的感覺是他很有自信，反而是一有點高傲，和他講話必須要戰戰兢兢的，如果說了什麼不重聽的話，他可能兩眼一翻，你今天別想再和他講到話，要不，他就和妳辯到底。辯論議題是沒什麼問題，但如果講兩句，你就覺得他好像把你當小孩在講話，或把你當白痴。恭喜你，你可能遇上了自大的人。
自大的人通常很自滿，對自己某些一技之長很有信心，(有些可能連一技之長都沒有)，說起話來長輩十足，你應該極惶恐的態度去接受他可以給你的珍貴知識，(雖然你知道是錯的)。這種自滿不見得來自於完全的自信，相反的，很多時候他們是很沒有自信，很多都是自我催眠和自我膨脹的結果。此乃”過度的自卑造成過度的自信”。
另一種自大的人是天生的，嚴格說，應該是家庭背景的關係。通常，他們家裡都有些銀子，在成長的過程中，沒見過什麼風雨，(和其他中學生械鬥、撞爛名車不算)，見慣了旁人對他的奉承，就算出了社會，那公子味、格格味去不了，倒是一種家庭背景所建立的自信還在。不過，他們的樓上，兩個耳朵中間的，通常沒裝太多時用的東西。
我因為工作和社團的關係，有機會見過很多成功的前輩，他們大部分都是很誠懇、很虛心的人。令人啼笑皆非的是，我開始越來越常見到一些年輕的朋友們，(或很多不大年輕的朋友)對自己現在的情況過於滿足，對自己的能力過度信心，不削他人的意見。我看了真的不明白，他們的自大到底哪裡來?他們沒見過比他們更成功、更努力的人嗎?
我和自大的人對話，是很累的事情，不但一面要對他一戳及破的自信有所保留，把自己尖酸刻薄的那面藏好，另一面還要忍受他接近幼稚的自滿。好加在，我不大有機會和他們一對一。另外，我也需要提醒自己，不要讓自己也成了他人眼中自大的人。
1/18/2007
My name is Sammy – a tragic truth story
When I came to Canada last century, I was given a new life, I was given a second chance, so I picked the most manly name I could imagine, James, after the famous MI6 agent of UK.
For those of you who knows my Chinese name, you know that it is gender-confused, one of the most traumatizing event happened when I was little and was taken to one of the biggest hospital in the city. There I was in the waiting area with my mom, some nurse announced, “楊永欣小妹妹,請到三號病房”. I thought, maybe, my name was just a little girly.
Fast forward a few years, when I was in one of those English tutoring centre in Taipei. The first class, the instructor asked us if we had English names, of course, being 10 and in Taiwan, I didn’t have an English name. The instructor then picked our names from the back of her English-Chinese Dictionary. My brother became John… and I became Sammy. I didn’t know that a few years later, there was a famous HK pop singer named Sammie… I never had a chance…
When I came to Canada, I became James, I didn’t know Justin, Jalen, Jamal… but I knew everyone knew that James is a guy.
Then, I went to high school, of course, back then, everyone writes his/her own note as follows:
To whom it may concern,
Please excuse James Yang for being absent on January 18, 2007, he had to see his family doctor.
Sincerely,
Thinking that the ESL teacher would never understand my Chinese handwriting, I signed with my own Chinese name. My classmate from HK saw the note and asked “who is that, your sister?” I told him it was my Chinese name, he burst into laughter, because in Cantonese, 欣is used in a female name, never in a guy’s name. Then I made the mistake of telling him that my original English name was actually Sammy, he laughed so hard, there was tears in his eyes.
So, I have lived a double life, I was Sammy, but now I am James. Please just call me James.
Btw, if you want to know, my Chinese name 永欣 means “forever blossoming”, poor bastard, I never had a chance…
For those of you who knows my Chinese name, you know that it is gender-confused, one of the most traumatizing event happened when I was little and was taken to one of the biggest hospital in the city. There I was in the waiting area with my mom, some nurse announced, “楊永欣小妹妹,請到三號病房”. I thought, maybe, my name was just a little girly.
Fast forward a few years, when I was in one of those English tutoring centre in Taipei. The first class, the instructor asked us if we had English names, of course, being 10 and in Taiwan, I didn’t have an English name. The instructor then picked our names from the back of her English-Chinese Dictionary. My brother became John… and I became Sammy. I didn’t know that a few years later, there was a famous HK pop singer named Sammie… I never had a chance…
When I came to Canada, I became James, I didn’t know Justin, Jalen, Jamal… but I knew everyone knew that James is a guy.
Then, I went to high school, of course, back then, everyone writes his/her own note as follows:
To whom it may concern,
Please excuse James Yang for being absent on January 18, 2007, he had to see his family doctor.
Sincerely,
Thinking that the ESL teacher would never understand my Chinese handwriting, I signed with my own Chinese name. My classmate from HK saw the note and asked “who is that, your sister?” I told him it was my Chinese name, he burst into laughter, because in Cantonese, 欣is used in a female name, never in a guy’s name. Then I made the mistake of telling him that my original English name was actually Sammy, he laughed so hard, there was tears in his eyes.
So, I have lived a double life, I was Sammy, but now I am James. Please just call me James.
Btw, if you want to know, my Chinese name 永欣 means “forever blossoming”, poor bastard, I never had a chance…
1/17/2007
Morally confused...
A recent conversation with my friend, she told me a tale of betrayal, not once but twice. Usually, when this type of thing happened, telling her to leave the man is my suggestion, because we are dealing with a habitual action instead of "accidents".
However, she told me, maybe, maybe it was her fault to ignore him, maybe it was her fault that the man cheated on her, again...
It is strange to see that a few months back, same woman was angry and sad about his first betrayal. Now, she is just sad and accepting the man. The advice she had received from her family? "you have to trust the man, because he is a man"
Honestly, I don't understand what her family meant by "because he is a man", since when it is okay for a man to cheat, but not okay for a woman to cheat? Perhaps, it is one of the thing that society generally accept as a regular male behaviour, or worse, taboo for females.
Another conversation with another friend, she was commenting on how both men and women will have the same view on certain behaviour. For example, a flirtatious woman is a "slut", but a flirtatious man is "horny" at the worst. Also, how society would scrutinize a female "homewrecker" more than a male "homewrecker"...
When we were brought up, we were been taught what actions are "moral", and what actions are "immoral". But as we age, black and white start to blend, more things are becoming grey, or somewhat acceptable.
When a close friend describe what working environment is like in Taipei, he said, "if you were to work over here, there will be girls lining up for you, without any consequences, without and burdens, because girls are okay with casual sexual encounters here"
I guess we are back to the 70s again...
However, she told me, maybe, maybe it was her fault to ignore him, maybe it was her fault that the man cheated on her, again...
It is strange to see that a few months back, same woman was angry and sad about his first betrayal. Now, she is just sad and accepting the man. The advice she had received from her family? "you have to trust the man, because he is a man"
Honestly, I don't understand what her family meant by "because he is a man", since when it is okay for a man to cheat, but not okay for a woman to cheat? Perhaps, it is one of the thing that society generally accept as a regular male behaviour, or worse, taboo for females.
Another conversation with another friend, she was commenting on how both men and women will have the same view on certain behaviour. For example, a flirtatious woman is a "slut", but a flirtatious man is "horny" at the worst. Also, how society would scrutinize a female "homewrecker" more than a male "homewrecker"...
When we were brought up, we were been taught what actions are "moral", and what actions are "immoral". But as we age, black and white start to blend, more things are becoming grey, or somewhat acceptable.
When a close friend describe what working environment is like in Taipei, he said, "if you were to work over here, there will be girls lining up for you, without any consequences, without and burdens, because girls are okay with casual sexual encounters here"
I guess we are back to the 70s again...
1/15/2007
退後
前幾天和朋友三更半夜跑去看BODYWORKS 3﹐看了幾十具屍體的感想是﹐有點像肉乾﹐人生來來去去﹐最後還不是像肉乾﹐不過我的朋友倒是說有點像牛排和蒜泥白肉﹐真的是餓鬼一個。
裡頭有個展示是一男一女做出一個高難度的YOGA動作﹐我的餓鬼朋友指出底下一個 心形的台。好像又會到某個充滿粉紅色的節日了。連看個展覽都會有壓力... X!@#$%
想想每段愛情只有兩種結局﹐一是結婚﹐一是分開﹐很自然的分開的機會大多了。分開可能是了解﹐可能是錯誤﹐但每段愛情都是回憶﹐如果知道退後的天空比較美﹐ 不知道會不會比較值得﹖
退後
天空灰的像哭過
離開你以後 並沒有 更自由
酸酸的空氣 嗅出我們的距離
一幕錐心的結局 像呼吸般無法停息
抽屜泛黃的日記 榨乾了回憶
那笑容是夏季
你我的過去 被順時針的忘記
缺氧過後的愛情 粗心的眼淚是多餘
我知道你我都沒有錯 只是忘了怎麼退後
信誓旦旦給了承諾 卻被時間撲了空
我知道我們都沒有錯 只是放手會比較好過
最美的愛情回憶裡待續
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最愛的一句是"離開你以後 並沒有 更自由"﹐雖然自由應該是自己給的...
裡頭有個展示是一男一女做出一個高難度的YOGA動作﹐我的餓鬼朋友指出底下一個 心形的台。好像又會到某個充滿粉紅色的節日了。連看個展覽都會有壓力... X!@#$%
想想每段愛情只有兩種結局﹐一是結婚﹐一是分開﹐很自然的分開的機會大多了。分開可能是了解﹐可能是錯誤﹐但每段愛情都是回憶﹐如果知道退後的天空比較美﹐ 不知道會不會比較值得﹖
退後
天空灰的像哭過
離開你以後 並沒有 更自由
酸酸的空氣 嗅出我們的距離
一幕錐心的結局 像呼吸般無法停息
抽屜泛黃的日記 榨乾了回憶
那笑容是夏季
你我的過去 被順時針的忘記
缺氧過後的愛情 粗心的眼淚是多餘
我知道你我都沒有錯 只是忘了怎麼退後
信誓旦旦給了承諾 卻被時間撲了空
我知道我們都沒有錯 只是放手會比較好過
最美的愛情回憶裡待續
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最愛的一句是"離開你以後 並沒有 更自由"﹐雖然自由應該是自己給的...
1/10/2007
Cancer sux...
It seems like cancer is taking one of my best friend's mother, my thoughts are with the family, please take care of yourself and your family.
For all my friends, please take good care of yourself, quit smoking and stay health. Seeing what cancer can do to one of my client, it is not the best way to leave this planet...
Cancer sux!
For all my friends, please take good care of yourself, quit smoking and stay health. Seeing what cancer can do to one of my client, it is not the best way to leave this planet...
Cancer sux!
1/09/2007
無趣的人
我很喜歡結交新的朋友，每認識一個新朋友，我的視野就寬廣一些，對自己的了解也多了一些。
交朋友時候，第一印象通常是非常重要的，很多人第一次見面的時候，會令人反感，但不能怪他們，因為有些人的表達方式不大成熟。第一次認識的那個人，並不是他的本人，而是替身。見過第一面但感覺不佳的朋友，我通常會多給幾次機會去認識他，大部分的人都是令我感興趣的，不論是工作、朋友、政治、還是時事，總有可以討論的。所以能讓我不想跟他作朋友的人並不多。
除了一種人，無趣的人。
無趣的人並不是話不投機，相反的，我覺得有不同意見的朋友是很有趣的事。所謂無趣是講他(或她)，對任何事情都不表興趣。對任何的提議都沒有意見、不見神色。有沒有喜歡的運動，沒有，工作如何？Okay la，最近有沒有看電影，有，覺得如何？還好…
有人厭嘴裡吐不出象牙的人，你在無趣的人嘴裡連石頭都找不到，要是有飛禽走獸我還開心一點勒。
跟無趣的人的對話大多是單方面的，答案都是不可至否。有時我不太曉得他是沒意見、沒想法還是故作神秘。有人可能會覺得搞不好這些人第一次見面就是這樣，扮酷，但我覺得如果我想認識新朋友的誠意已盡，他還作酷，那就是他的EQ不高，誠意不足了。
無趣的人的另一特色是他們對今天、明天、或下一分鐘會如何，也沒有興趣知道。
他們的形成應該跟大都市化很有關係，再加上工作的繁忙，每天只知道做自己的工作，對其他人，對明天，都沒有太大的憧憬，就更別提興趣了。
很幸運的，被我認作無趣的人非常的少，再少的興趣總會打電動、看電視、上上網、寫寫blog(好像在說我自己)。但我覺得這種人會越來越多，所以各位朋友們，在你還沒有走火入魔前，千萬不要讓自己淪落成無趣的人。
交朋友時候，第一印象通常是非常重要的，很多人第一次見面的時候，會令人反感，但不能怪他們，因為有些人的表達方式不大成熟。第一次認識的那個人，並不是他的本人，而是替身。見過第一面但感覺不佳的朋友，我通常會多給幾次機會去認識他，大部分的人都是令我感興趣的，不論是工作、朋友、政治、還是時事，總有可以討論的。所以能讓我不想跟他作朋友的人並不多。
除了一種人，無趣的人。
無趣的人並不是話不投機，相反的，我覺得有不同意見的朋友是很有趣的事。所謂無趣是講他(或她)，對任何事情都不表興趣。對任何的提議都沒有意見、不見神色。有沒有喜歡的運動，沒有，工作如何？Okay la，最近有沒有看電影，有，覺得如何？還好…
有人厭嘴裡吐不出象牙的人，你在無趣的人嘴裡連石頭都找不到，要是有飛禽走獸我還開心一點勒。
跟無趣的人的對話大多是單方面的，答案都是不可至否。有時我不太曉得他是沒意見、沒想法還是故作神秘。有人可能會覺得搞不好這些人第一次見面就是這樣，扮酷，但我覺得如果我想認識新朋友的誠意已盡，他還作酷，那就是他的EQ不高，誠意不足了。
無趣的人的另一特色是他們對今天、明天、或下一分鐘會如何，也沒有興趣知道。
他們的形成應該跟大都市化很有關係，再加上工作的繁忙，每天只知道做自己的工作，對其他人，對明天，都沒有太大的憧憬，就更別提興趣了。
很幸運的，被我認作無趣的人非常的少，再少的興趣總會打電動、看電視、上上網、寫寫blog(好像在說我自己)。但我覺得這種人會越來越多，所以各位朋友們，在你還沒有走火入魔前，千萬不要讓自己淪落成無趣的人。
1/08/2007
Where is that little boy… in you?
I had some visitors from Taiwan and US over the weekend. We had done everything Taiwanese you can imagine, including having TW food at President Plaza, buying bubble tea at Tea Castle (3 times in 3 days), hanging out at T&T supermarket…
However, we also went to watch a Disney Musical over the weekend. It was the “Beauty and the Beast”. It was okay, the sound could be improved (or our seats could be improved), but it was very much the original Disney cartoon I used to watch and loved.
Used to. I realized in the thearte that although everything seemed very familiar, it lacked the elements that used to draw me in and moved me. As I have also realized when sitting in other live performances and movies. I am becoming harder and harder to be mentally involved in the stories.
It is a strange revelation, as I age, maybe I lose that little boy in me. I used to be scared by ghost stories, laughed at slapstick cartoons, excited when the good guys kick the bad guys’ ass, and laughed more when the bad guys vowed for revenge…
Until one day, I stopped asking who the good/bad guy is and wondered if there is a good/bad guy anyways. The more I grow, the more I learn, and the less innocent I have become.
I also watched “Lord of War” with Nicholas Cage, and found that is the type of things I am drawn to now. The hypocritical, political, environmental, witty, violent, type of films. Maybe the little boy has grown up…
However, we also went to watch a Disney Musical over the weekend. It was the “Beauty and the Beast”. It was okay, the sound could be improved (or our seats could be improved), but it was very much the original Disney cartoon I used to watch and loved.
Used to. I realized in the thearte that although everything seemed very familiar, it lacked the elements that used to draw me in and moved me. As I have also realized when sitting in other live performances and movies. I am becoming harder and harder to be mentally involved in the stories.
It is a strange revelation, as I age, maybe I lose that little boy in me. I used to be scared by ghost stories, laughed at slapstick cartoons, excited when the good guys kick the bad guys’ ass, and laughed more when the bad guys vowed for revenge…
Until one day, I stopped asking who the good/bad guy is and wondered if there is a good/bad guy anyways. The more I grow, the more I learn, and the less innocent I have become.
I also watched “Lord of War” with Nicholas Cage, and found that is the type of things I am drawn to now. The hypocritical, political, environmental, witty, violent, type of films. Maybe the little boy has grown up…
1/06/2007
Something for you to remember...
Don't wait around for your life to happen to you.
Find something that makes you happy, and do it.
Because everything else is just background noise
Find something that makes you happy, and do it.
Because everything else is just background noise
1/05/2007
愛我愛妳
年關將至，一些八卦兼關心的朋友們，除了給我打氣，希望我快點找到新歡，也面帶疑惑的問我，“你到底喜歡怎樣的女生?”，當然對A list上的朋友，此問題是關心多過八卦， B list 上的朋友是八卦多過關心， C list的朋友是想當月下老人多過八卦…
老實說，過去的一年，我有很大的突破，就是了解什麼樣的感覺是我喜歡的。以前有提過我的戀愛鐵則，哪些女生不碰。至於我的怪癖，就不再提它了。但哪種女生才是我所追求的?
這就回到談戀愛的感覺了，以前談起戀愛，尤其是開始，總是有些ging，希望女生看到的是最好的一面，坐也不是站也不是，愛起來渾身不自在，有時回到家，還在奇怪剛剛那個男的是誰，我怎麼都不認識。還有的就是患得患失症，一下擔心剛剛說的話對不對，一下擔心如果她發現我這麼愛碎碎唸，不會把她嚇跑吧…
但有機會談一個完全做自己的戀愛是很過癮的，尤其是可以做你想要做的自己。
我知道聽起來有點奇怪，但你仔細想想，就像交朋友，認識很久的朋友，可能有很多看不過去的東西不會跟你講，有許多你的優點，他們也不會提醒你，所以認識新的朋友的時候，他們就可以看見你的優缺點。從新朋友身上，比較容易看見你自己看不見的自己。由他們所發現的優點和缺點，你就發現你想要成型的樣。
當然，我不是提倡換男女朋友如換衣，我的前提是做真正的自己，不做作的情況下，讓別人有機會去接近你。
戀愛也是，如果你每天去勉強自己去做一個不像你的人，是很累的。但如果你可以愛上那個愛著別人的自己，恭喜你！那是另一種境界的愛情，心靈自由的愛情…
老實說，過去的一年，我有很大的突破，就是了解什麼樣的感覺是我喜歡的。以前有提過我的戀愛鐵則，哪些女生不碰。至於我的怪癖，就不再提它了。但哪種女生才是我所追求的?
這就回到談戀愛的感覺了，以前談起戀愛，尤其是開始，總是有些ging，希望女生看到的是最好的一面，坐也不是站也不是，愛起來渾身不自在，有時回到家，還在奇怪剛剛那個男的是誰，我怎麼都不認識。還有的就是患得患失症，一下擔心剛剛說的話對不對，一下擔心如果她發現我這麼愛碎碎唸，不會把她嚇跑吧…
但有機會談一個完全做自己的戀愛是很過癮的，尤其是可以做你想要做的自己。
我知道聽起來有點奇怪，但你仔細想想，就像交朋友，認識很久的朋友，可能有很多看不過去的東西不會跟你講，有許多你的優點，他們也不會提醒你，所以認識新的朋友的時候，他們就可以看見你的優缺點。從新朋友身上，比較容易看見你自己看不見的自己。由他們所發現的優點和缺點，你就發現你想要成型的樣。
當然，我不是提倡換男女朋友如換衣，我的前提是做真正的自己，不做作的情況下，讓別人有機會去接近你。
戀愛也是，如果你每天去勉強自己去做一個不像你的人，是很累的。但如果你可以愛上那個愛著別人的自己，恭喜你！那是另一種境界的愛情，心靈自由的愛情…
1/02/2007
撞太歲保平安
數日前﹐某朋友網頁列出各生肖流年運勢。小弟屬蛇﹐據網頁指出﹐小弟今年逢歲破星，即正沖太歲。不但時運不濟﹐心情也易自怨自艾、消極悲觀。我看這下不好﹐ 求救其他網頁。巧遇另一朋友網頁登出性格分析﹐在萬念俱灰之時﹐有如明燈於抬頭三尺處﹐試想﹐“知己知彼百戰百勝“﹐知己為先﹐另外﹐如網頁性格分析不準﹐不勞精神擔心網頁流年之事。
Psytopic分析：您的性格類型是 ENFJ(外向+直覺+情感+判斷)
溫情，有同情心，反應敏捷，有責任感。非常關注別人的情緒、需要和動机。善于發現他人的潛能，并希望能幫助他們實現。能夠成為個人或群體成長和進步的催化劑。忠誠，對贊美和批評都能做出積極地回應。友善、好社交。在團體中能很好地幫助他人，并有鼓舞他人的領導能力。
ENFJ型的人熱愛人類，他們認為人的感情是最重要的。而且他們很自然地關心別人，以熱情的態度對待生命，感受与個人相關的所有事物。由于他們很理想化，按照自己的价值觀生活，因此ENFJ型的人對于他們所尊重和敬 佩的人、事業和机构非常忠誠。
他們精力充沛、滿腔熱情、富有責任感、勤勤勤懇懇、鍥而不舍。 ENFJ型的人具有自我批評的自然傾向。然而，他們對他人的情感具有責任心，所以ENFJ型的人很少在公共場合批評人。他們 敏銳地意識到什么是（或不是）合适的行為。他們彬彬有禮、富有魅力、討人喜歡、深諳社會。
ENFJ型的人具有平和的性格与忍耐力，他們長于外交，擅長在自己的周圍激發幽默感。他們是天的領導者，受人歡迎而有而有魅力。他們常常得利于自己口頭表達的天份，愿意成為出色的傳播工作者。 ENFJ型的人在自已對情況感受的基礎上做決定，而不是基于事實本身。他們對顯而易見的事物之外的可能性，以及這些可能性以怎樣的方式影響他人 感興趣。
ENFJ型的人天生具有條理性，他們喜歡一种有安排的世界，并且希望別人也是如此。即使其他人正在做決定，他們還是喜歡把問題解決了。 ENFJ型的人富有同情心和理解力，愿意培養和支持他人。他們能很好地 理解別人，有責任感和關心他人。由于他們是理想主義者，因此他們通常能看到別人身上的优點。
您适合的領域有：培訓、咨詢、教育、新聞傳播、公共關系、文化藝術
您适合的職業有：
人力資源培訓主任
銷售經理
小企業經理
程序設計員
生態旅游業專家
廣告客戶經理
公關專業人士
協調人
交流總裁
作家／記者
非營利机构總裁
雜志編輯
電視制片人
市場專員
社會工作者
人力資源管理
職業指導顧問
心理咨詢工作者
大學教師（人文學科類）
教育學、心理學研究人員
撰稿人
節目主持人（新聞、采訪類）
公共關系專家
社會活動家
文藝工作者
平面設計師
畫家
音樂家
看完報告﹐小弟已被秘湯灌暈﹐真是妙不可言﹐所有優點講的正是小弟。但細細再閱﹐小弟的工作”投資顧問“不在其中﹐莫非命中註定要改行﹖又瞥見”音樂家“赫然其中﹐心中大石才砰咚落地。小弟自幼就沒音樂天份﹐成年後﹐領教過家父家慈的歌喉﹐了解我乃”先天不良﹐後天失調“。
才鬆口氣﹐又見流年運勢的建議﹕除了行以正道之外，今年最好能安奉「太歲符」或佩戴「太歲符令」來趨吉避凶。
也許該加上﹐沒事不要逛網頁﹐逛了也不要花時間去想﹐想了也不要花時間去寫BLOG... whoops...
Psytopic分析：您的性格類型是 ENFJ(外向+直覺+情感+判斷)
溫情，有同情心，反應敏捷，有責任感。非常關注別人的情緒、需要和動机。善于發現他人的潛能，并希望能幫助他們實現。能夠成為個人或群體成長和進步的催化劑。忠誠，對贊美和批評都能做出積極地回應。友善、好社交。在團體中能很好地幫助他人，并有鼓舞他人的領導能力。
ENFJ型的人熱愛人類，他們認為人的感情是最重要的。而且他們很自然地關心別人，以熱情的態度對待生命，感受与個人相關的所有事物。由于他們很理想化，按照自己的价值觀生活，因此ENFJ型的人對于他們所尊重和敬 佩的人、事業和机构非常忠誠。
他們精力充沛、滿腔熱情、富有責任感、勤勤勤懇懇、鍥而不舍。 ENFJ型的人具有自我批評的自然傾向。然而，他們對他人的情感具有責任心，所以ENFJ型的人很少在公共場合批評人。他們 敏銳地意識到什么是（或不是）合适的行為。他們彬彬有禮、富有魅力、討人喜歡、深諳社會。
ENFJ型的人具有平和的性格与忍耐力，他們長于外交，擅長在自己的周圍激發幽默感。他們是天的領導者，受人歡迎而有而有魅力。他們常常得利于自己口頭表達的天份，愿意成為出色的傳播工作者。 ENFJ型的人在自已對情況感受的基礎上做決定，而不是基于事實本身。他們對顯而易見的事物之外的可能性，以及這些可能性以怎樣的方式影響他人 感興趣。
ENFJ型的人天生具有條理性，他們喜歡一种有安排的世界，并且希望別人也是如此。即使其他人正在做決定，他們還是喜歡把問題解決了。 ENFJ型的人富有同情心和理解力，愿意培養和支持他人。他們能很好地 理解別人，有責任感和關心他人。由于他們是理想主義者，因此他們通常能看到別人身上的优點。
您适合的領域有：培訓、咨詢、教育、新聞傳播、公共關系、文化藝術
您适合的職業有：
人力資源培訓主任
銷售經理
小企業經理
程序設計員
生態旅游業專家
廣告客戶經理
公關專業人士
協調人
交流總裁
作家／記者
非營利机构總裁
雜志編輯
電視制片人
市場專員
社會工作者
人力資源管理
職業指導顧問
心理咨詢工作者
大學教師（人文學科類）
教育學、心理學研究人員
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看完報告﹐小弟已被秘湯灌暈﹐真是妙不可言﹐所有優點講的正是小弟。但細細再閱﹐小弟的工作”投資顧問“不在其中﹐莫非命中註定要改行﹖又瞥見”音樂家“赫然其中﹐心中大石才砰咚落地。小弟自幼就沒音樂天份﹐成年後﹐領教過家父家慈的歌喉﹐了解我乃”先天不良﹐後天失調“。
才鬆口氣﹐又見流年運勢的建議﹕除了行以正道之外，今年最好能安奉「太歲符」或佩戴「太歲符令」來趨吉避凶。
也許該加上﹐沒事不要逛網頁﹐逛了也不要花時間去想﹐想了也不要花時間去寫BLOG... whoops...
Who wants to marry a millionare - Chinese version
I am not a big fan of reality TV, because we are living in a real world, I don't understand why we have to look at a syndicated show that calls itself a reality show. Anyhow, it hit its lowest point when some genius decided to air a show called "Who wants to marry a millionare" a few years ago. Alright, it was not really a reality show, but more of a tv contest, like "Who wants to be a millionare".
I didn't watch the show, but I saw part of the commercial on tv. Basically, you have a self-proclaimed millionare who has to pick a wife out of a group of young women, all of them in wedding dresses. (talk about being desperate...)
The concept was so bad that I was surprised that the producer didn't get shot by some women activists. It was almost like picking grocery, hm... this one looks fresh, that one looks juicy... The point? It shows what are the desirable characters in men and women when it comes to marriage.
Another piece of news I read recently. In China, they have just hosted a cruise down huangpu river, with single men and women looking for romance and marriage posibilities. It was a very special group of people, according to its organizers, the men have to have at least 2 million RMB in asset (about 300k CAD), and the women? no restriction...
One of the male attendee in his fifties who got interviewed said that he was too busy with his business and no time for romance, was looking for a woman in her thirties, and beautiful.
My biggest problem with the above two stories is how we measure success for men and women. For men, how rich they are. As long as they have accumulated enough assets, age, height, weight, baldness does not matter. For women, how young they can keep theirself, they do not have to prove that they can think or make money, as long as they keep their age, weight, figures in check.
In the 21st century, it is sad to know that some of this stereotype still exists.
Finally, another piece of story (junk) I read last century. According to a study done by a TW newspaper.
The most desirable bachelors are:
1. Engineers (Software, I think)
2. Lawyers
3. Doctors
4. Accountants
5. Pilots
The most desriable bachelorettes are:
1. Teachers (Elementry school, I think)
2. Nurses
3. Flight Attendants
4. ... (can't remember)
5. ... (can't remember)
I have to point out that these bachelors are usually quite boring people, but are usually quite rich. And these bachelorettes can usually be catergorized as patient, caring, mothery types... oh, and they are the usual porn characters.
So I guess the stereotype countinues...
I didn't watch the show, but I saw part of the commercial on tv. Basically, you have a self-proclaimed millionare who has to pick a wife out of a group of young women, all of them in wedding dresses. (talk about being desperate...)
The concept was so bad that I was surprised that the producer didn't get shot by some women activists. It was almost like picking grocery, hm... this one looks fresh, that one looks juicy... The point? It shows what are the desirable characters in men and women when it comes to marriage.
Another piece of news I read recently. In China, they have just hosted a cruise down huangpu river, with single men and women looking for romance and marriage posibilities. It was a very special group of people, according to its organizers, the men have to have at least 2 million RMB in asset (about 300k CAD), and the women? no restriction...
One of the male attendee in his fifties who got interviewed said that he was too busy with his business and no time for romance, was looking for a woman in her thirties, and beautiful.
My biggest problem with the above two stories is how we measure success for men and women. For men, how rich they are. As long as they have accumulated enough assets, age, height, weight, baldness does not matter. For women, how young they can keep theirself, they do not have to prove that they can think or make money, as long as they keep their age, weight, figures in check.
In the 21st century, it is sad to know that some of this stereotype still exists.
Finally, another piece of story (junk) I read last century. According to a study done by a TW newspaper.
The most desirable bachelors are:
1. Engineers (Software, I think)
2. Lawyers
3. Doctors
4. Accountants
5. Pilots
The most desriable bachelorettes are:
1. Teachers (Elementry school, I think)
2. Nurses
3. Flight Attendants
4. ... (can't remember)
5. ... (can't remember)
I have to point out that these bachelors are usually quite boring people, but are usually quite rich. And these bachelorettes can usually be catergorized as patient, caring, mothery types... oh, and they are the usual porn characters.
So I guess the stereotype countinues...
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