Mr. Big

"Why the heck are you still talking to him?", I asked

"You know he is my Mr. Big...", my friend told me the other day, over the phone, I could imagine her shrugging at the same time.

Who is this Mr. Big? Like the Mr. Big in "Sex and City", he is handsome, mature, wealth, and romantic. The only problem is that he is in another relationship...

The thing is, as most girls who are seeking someone of Mr. Big quality, they idolize Mr. Big. Doesn't matter if Mr. Big is abusive, mentally unavaliable, or a complete moral faliure, he is the thing that make a girl's knees weak.

Why is that the case? I suspect that subconsciouslly these girls are sabotaging their own relationships by getting into relationships that have no tomorrows. Even though most of them say, "all I want is a stable and long term relationship with someone who cares about me...", but by being with Mr. Big, how the heck will they satisfy any of the above needs? I think they should just admit that, "I want fiery, passionate love, with rollercoaster rides and heartaches in between", not there is anything wrong with that, I think that is a more accurate statment of the girls who are looking for Mr. Big.

Of course, that is a little cynical, given that wanting to be with someone who is mature, wealthy, good looking and romantic is every girl's dream. However, they really don't have to pick the ones with all of the above quality plus being abusive, mentally unavaliable, or a complete moral faliure. I understand why girls would love Mr. Big, but please don't tell me that all you want is Adian, while you are still looking for Mr. Big. Maybe, you are not ready for Adian?

Girls, I think Mr. Big is Mr. Big only because you want him to be your Mr. Big, you have given the power to him to become a Mr. Big... Hopefully, I am not someone's Mr. Big.