兩個年過三十五的老男人, 座在漁港旁的咖啡廳, 聊政治, 談經濟, 小孩, 房子, 車子, 工作, 聊著聊著, 時間又過了大半天, 我們都還有多少過去的回憶, 有多少未來的夢想?
11/12/2013
10/29/2013
為什麼
小時候總會問為什麼, 為什麼天是藍的, 為什麼要睡覺, 為什麼念書, 為什麼要聯考, 長大了還是問為什麼, 為什麼要考駕照, 為什麼要喝酒, 為什麼要結婚. 可以想像問為什麼的同時, 腦中有不同的想法, 眼裡有被啟發的渴望.
直到有一天, 發現自己已經不再問為什麼, 接受社會就是這樣, 人就是這樣, 天空就是藍的...
直到有一天, 發現自己已經不再問為什麼, 接受社會就是這樣, 人就是這樣, 天空就是藍的...
10/04/2013
Birthday goals 36
When I started this blog back in 2005, one of the first things I have done was the 5 year goals and 1 year goals. I think I need to set another set of goals before I hit 40...
4/18/2013
There was a time
There was a time when one was young and restless, believing everything is possible. Then he grows up with people telling him what is not possible, and showing him the limitations.
Then he transforms, from a bouncy bird just learnt how to fly, exploring the world. One day, he is an old rooster.
Then he transforms, from a bouncy bird just learnt how to fly, exploring the world. One day, he is an old rooster.
1/10/2013
Where were you at 25?
I went out with Ms cake's UBC friends last weekend. They were all Ms cakes's age all in their late 20s. One girl complained about her boyfriend in his 25, she said he doesn't know what he wants to do in life yet.
Then, one girl turned to me and asked me, "what were you doing when you were 25?"
25, that was 10 years ago, I was still working in Manulife, my first job, maybe promoted to be a marketing specialist. Have I had my 30k annual income yet? Cant remember.
25, where was I in life? I was involved in a lot of community works, TYPEABC, emceeing at Taiwanese Cultural Fesival. I might be in my second relationship.
25, I was stuck in a career mud, the job didn't pay well, I wasn't learning much. But I had fun going to clubs, owning my first car, living with roommates.
I was a man not ready to be a man when I was 25, like my friend said back then, I was too young to know everything, but not too old to learn.
25, it was a good age.
Then, one girl turned to me and asked me, "what were you doing when you were 25?"
25, that was 10 years ago, I was still working in Manulife, my first job, maybe promoted to be a marketing specialist. Have I had my 30k annual income yet? Cant remember.
25, where was I in life? I was involved in a lot of community works, TYPEABC, emceeing at Taiwanese Cultural Fesival. I might be in my second relationship.
25, I was stuck in a career mud, the job didn't pay well, I wasn't learning much. But I had fun going to clubs, owning my first car, living with roommates.
I was a man not ready to be a man when I was 25, like my friend said back then, I was too young to know everything, but not too old to learn.
25, it was a good age.
12/10/2012
"Marry You" - Bruno Mars
It's a beautiful night,
We're looking for something dumb to do.
Hey baby,
I think I wanna marry you.
Is it the look in your eyes,
Or is it this dancing juice?
Who cares baby,
I think I wanna marry you.
Well I know this little chapel on the boulevard we can go oh oh oh,
No one will know oh oh oh,
Oh, come on, girl.
Who cares if we're trashed got a pocket full of cash we can blow oh oh oh,
Shots of patron,
And it's on, girl.
Don't say no, no, no, no-no;
Just say yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah-yeah;
And we'll go, go, go, go-go.
If you're ready, like I'm ready.
Cause it's a beautiful night,
We're looking for something dumb to do.
Hey baby,
I think I wanna marry you.
Is it the look in your eyes,
Or is it this dancing juice?
Who cares baby,
I think I wanna marry you.
I'll go get a ring let the choir bells sing like oooh,
So what you wanna do?
Let's just run girl.
If we wake up and you wanna break up that's cool.
No, I won't blame you;
It was fun, girl.
Don't say no, no, no, no-no;
Just say yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah-yeah;
And we'll go, go, go, go-go.
If you're ready, like I'm ready.
Cause it's a beautiful night,
We're looking for something dumb to do.
Hey baby,
I think I wanna marry you.
Is it the look in your eyes,
Or is it this dancing juice?
Who cares baby,
I think I wanna marry you.
[x2:]
Just say I doooooo-ooo uhu,
Tell me right now baby,
Tell me right now baby, baby.
Oh, it's a beautiful night,
We're looking for something dumb to do.
Hey baby,
I think I wanna marry you.
Is it the look in your eyes,
Or is it this dancing juice?
Who cares baby,
I think I wanna marry you.
We're looking for something dumb to do.
Hey baby,
I think I wanna marry you.
Is it the look in your eyes,
Or is it this dancing juice?
Who cares baby,
I think I wanna marry you.
Well I know this little chapel on the boulevard we can go oh oh oh,
No one will know oh oh oh,
Oh, come on, girl.
Who cares if we're trashed got a pocket full of cash we can blow oh oh oh,
Shots of patron,
And it's on, girl.
Don't say no, no, no, no-no;
Just say yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah-yeah;
And we'll go, go, go, go-go.
If you're ready, like I'm ready.
Cause it's a beautiful night,
We're looking for something dumb to do.
Hey baby,
I think I wanna marry you.
Is it the look in your eyes,
Or is it this dancing juice?
Who cares baby,
I think I wanna marry you.
I'll go get a ring let the choir bells sing like oooh,
So what you wanna do?
Let's just run girl.
If we wake up and you wanna break up that's cool.
No, I won't blame you;
It was fun, girl.
Don't say no, no, no, no-no;
Just say yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah-yeah;
And we'll go, go, go, go-go.
If you're ready, like I'm ready.
Cause it's a beautiful night,
We're looking for something dumb to do.
Hey baby,
I think I wanna marry you.
Is it the look in your eyes,
Or is it this dancing juice?
Who cares baby,
I think I wanna marry you.
[x2:]
Just say I doooooo-ooo uhu,
Tell me right now baby,
Tell me right now baby, baby.
Oh, it's a beautiful night,
We're looking for something dumb to do.
Hey baby,
I think I wanna marry you.
Is it the look in your eyes,
Or is it this dancing juice?
Who cares baby,
I think I wanna marry you.
8/28/2012
Saying goodbye
We have never been taught how to say goodbye. But I have been doing a lot of that lately.
With family and friends from oversea for our big day, I have to send them away one by one. Goodbye to good friends and family always happen very sudden. It is like stopping in mid sentence.
You are not sure where to start again, so you just nod, wave, and say your goodbyes. Looking at their faces, you sudden realize that they came for you, but there is very little you can do to have them around forever.
Same with saying goodbye to my youth, my single life. It just happened, no preparation, no warnings...
With family and friends from oversea for our big day, I have to send them away one by one. Goodbye to good friends and family always happen very sudden. It is like stopping in mid sentence.
You are not sure where to start again, so you just nod, wave, and say your goodbyes. Looking at their faces, you sudden realize that they came for you, but there is very little you can do to have them around forever.
Same with saying goodbye to my youth, my single life. It just happened, no preparation, no warnings...
8/01/2012
Life is unpredictable
I have met Kevin a few times, but I don't know Kevin well. He was a chiropractor, kind of quiet, reserve, but very helpful. When I got in a car accident, he msg ms. cake regarding things I should be careful with. He was one of the few good men.
He was married last year, being 3 years young than me. It was a shock to learn that he had suffered a heart attack while napping last Sunday and passed away.
The news spread fast, and condolences streams in on his Facebook account. I learnt that he was a baseball player on weekends, a very good shortstop, and obviously loved by many.
It sucks that I got to know him better after he passed away.
Kevin, I wish I had known you better when you were around. But your story told me a good lesson. Enjoy life and be good to people around you...
He was married last year, being 3 years young than me. It was a shock to learn that he had suffered a heart attack while napping last Sunday and passed away.
The news spread fast, and condolences streams in on his Facebook account. I learnt that he was a baseball player on weekends, a very good shortstop, and obviously loved by many.
It sucks that I got to know him better after he passed away.
Kevin, I wish I had known you better when you were around. But your story told me a good lesson. Enjoy life and be good to people around you...
7/09/2012
人生旅途
早上四點半, 剛從台灣回來怎麼樣都睡不著. 很多感覺就趁精神脆弱的時候冒了出來.
這次回去是爲了拍婚紗及訂婚, 有很多人沒見, 有很多地方沒去, 有很東西沒吃, 但天氣太熱, 什麼事都不想做, 還來一個發高燒, 還因為高燒這輩子第一次打點滴.
感觸最深的還是遇到的人與事, 在往台北的路上遇到從美國OREGON, 第一次到台灣玩的美國妹, 對台灣有極大的興趣.
過了兩天, 吃早餐遇到從尼加拉瓜來台灣三年的生意人, 談到在台灣做生意的甘苦, 他說台灣人做生意就只有在比價錢, 看誰比較便宜.
見到兩個成家的好朋友, 雖然都一樣, 但都表現成熟的多, 對自己與未來的多少有點把握. 到是見到了親戚, 一個個白頭, 年紀都大了, 尤其是祖母, 因為腎病, 瘦得都認不出來. 堂弟們好幾個結婚, 看伯母驕傲的樣子, 這就是長輩年紀大最在意的東西.
與蛋糕姐姐家人相處, 開始了解家族的不同與習性. 很幸運的, 兩方家人都給予了許多的幫助. 有時想起, 父母都六十幾了, 我都三十多歲的人, 真不應該還要家人的幫助, 早該三十而立了.
這旅途好像人生, 看到了各個人生的階段. 炎熱夏天的台北, 我已經很難體會小時後背著書包上課, 那是什麼感覺...
這次回去是爲了拍婚紗及訂婚, 有很多人沒見, 有很多地方沒去, 有很東西沒吃, 但天氣太熱, 什麼事都不想做, 還來一個發高燒, 還因為高燒這輩子第一次打點滴.
感觸最深的還是遇到的人與事, 在往台北的路上遇到從美國OREGON, 第一次到台灣玩的美國妹, 對台灣有極大的興趣.
過了兩天, 吃早餐遇到從尼加拉瓜來台灣三年的生意人, 談到在台灣做生意的甘苦, 他說台灣人做生意就只有在比價錢, 看誰比較便宜.
見到兩個成家的好朋友, 雖然都一樣, 但都表現成熟的多, 對自己與未來的多少有點把握. 到是見到了親戚, 一個個白頭, 年紀都大了, 尤其是祖母, 因為腎病, 瘦得都認不出來. 堂弟們好幾個結婚, 看伯母驕傲的樣子, 這就是長輩年紀大最在意的東西.
與蛋糕姐姐家人相處, 開始了解家族的不同與習性. 很幸運的, 兩方家人都給予了許多的幫助. 有時想起, 父母都六十幾了, 我都三十多歲的人, 真不應該還要家人的幫助, 早該三十而立了.
這旅途好像人生, 看到了各個人生的階段. 炎熱夏天的台北, 我已經很難體會小時後背著書包上課, 那是什麼感覺...
6/05/2012
長輩請客
最近不知道為什麼,可能距離單身的結束日子近了,就對小時候的事情回憶的特別多.
記得有年夏天的傍晚,非常炎熱,那時候與爸爸回家的路上,爸爸突然大發慈悲,說要請我飲料,我們家自小就不大讓小孩喝垃圾飲料,我當然興奮的選冰庫裡十五塊錢的罐裝汽水,而不是旁邊的十塊錢鋁箔包,結果爸爸就生氣啦,他雖然買單,但是就一路罵我浪費錢,什麼都不會,還選貴的飲料喝.我那汽水喝得非常難過,這堂請客並不代表可以選自己愛的東西的課一直印象深刻.
有次,輪到我請我弟弟喝飲料,他也是選比較貴的飲料,我也是買單後罵了他一頓,現在想起來他那個委屈的表情,真是對不起他.
但長大出了社會後,並不代表對長輩請客就真的摸得清楚狀況.
有次,到南部看伯母,他平常非常節儉但破例帶我到西餐廳吃飯.伯母要請客,還非常建議我選套餐.我學乖了就選個最便宜的套餐,誰知道她竟然說她只要喝湯,還說她肚子很飽.這餐也是吃得渾身不自在,其實我知道她是好意,自己捨不得,就請我吃.現在想雖然很感動,但那時的感覺非常不好受,尤其套餐是從前菜一路吃到甜點,覺得自己好像很浪費.早知道就約在路邊攤,兩個人都可以吃得飽飽的.
現在,我已經學會,長輩要請客,我絕對不會給意見點菜,要我吃什麼都可以.至於搶帳單,我道現在還是不會...
記得有年夏天的傍晚,非常炎熱,那時候與爸爸回家的路上,爸爸突然大發慈悲,說要請我飲料,我們家自小就不大讓小孩喝垃圾飲料,我當然興奮的選冰庫裡十五塊錢的罐裝汽水,而不是旁邊的十塊錢鋁箔包,結果爸爸就生氣啦,他雖然買單,但是就一路罵我浪費錢,什麼都不會,還選貴的飲料喝.我那汽水喝得非常難過,這堂請客並不代表可以選自己愛的東西的課一直印象深刻.
有次,輪到我請我弟弟喝飲料,他也是選比較貴的飲料,我也是買單後罵了他一頓,現在想起來他那個委屈的表情,真是對不起他.
但長大出了社會後,並不代表對長輩請客就真的摸得清楚狀況.
有次,到南部看伯母,他平常非常節儉但破例帶我到西餐廳吃飯.伯母要請客,還非常建議我選套餐.我學乖了就選個最便宜的套餐,誰知道她竟然說她只要喝湯,還說她肚子很飽.這餐也是吃得渾身不自在,其實我知道她是好意,自己捨不得,就請我吃.現在想雖然很感動,但那時的感覺非常不好受,尤其套餐是從前菜一路吃到甜點,覺得自己好像很浪費.早知道就約在路邊攤,兩個人都可以吃得飽飽的.
現在,我已經學會,長輩要請客,我絕對不會給意見點菜,要我吃什麼都可以.至於搶帳單,我道現在還是不會...
2/23/2012
那些年做過的傻事...
昨天晚上終於給我看到九把刀的那些年, 看了以後很開心, 也有淡淡的惆悵. 蛋糕姐姐一直說看完覺得自己老了... 我倒覺得事完全屬於六年級的電影.
從考聯考, 張學友的吻別, 王祖賢的海報... 那就是年輕的我
1996年, 主角跟我一樣, 也是面對大學生活, 那種自己都搞不清楚, 酸味多過甜味的戀情. 從愛要到擁有, 直到愛要放棄... 那種成長, 就是我們那時的成長.
有時想起那個時候的自己, 真的很幼稚, 但也很純真, 真的很懵懂, 但也很開心, 對未來有點茫然, 但又不完全害怕. 做任何傻事也不用擔心後果, 或旁人的眼光.
看到主角高中畢業的那一幕, 讓我想到我參加自己小學畢業典禮後, 站在學校旁的十字路口, 很興奮, 也很徬徨, 有種空虛的充實感. 很有可能我們長大都會有的感覺.
從考聯考, 張學友的吻別, 王祖賢的海報... 那就是年輕的我
1996年, 主角跟我一樣, 也是面對大學生活, 那種自己都搞不清楚, 酸味多過甜味的戀情. 從愛要到擁有, 直到愛要放棄... 那種成長, 就是我們那時的成長.
有時想起那個時候的自己, 真的很幼稚, 但也很純真, 真的很懵懂, 但也很開心, 對未來有點茫然, 但又不完全害怕. 做任何傻事也不用擔心後果, 或旁人的眼光.
看到主角高中畢業的那一幕, 讓我想到我參加自己小學畢業典禮後, 站在學校旁的十字路口, 很興奮, 也很徬徨, 有種空虛的充實感. 很有可能我們長大都會有的感覺.
2/21/2012
小資熟男加油
最近幾乎是一星期工作七天, 周末一天要看房子, 一天要看客人, 有時就習慣了回家不是玩賽車遊戲, 就是看youtube. 好像已經進入了中年生活.
有的時候告訴客人今年結婚, 他們都很意外我這麼大了來未婚.
也許是時間到了, 也許是遇到了對的人, 但就像我之前算過成家需要的資金, 或是朋友的ABC族群, 人生就這樣一步一步走. 有時, 來來去去還是為了錢, 跟同行也同年的朋友聊, 其實我們的收入不差, 為什麼老是覺得自己過得很窮.
可能小資熟男還是要加加油!
有的時候告訴客人今年結婚, 他們都很意外我這麼大了來未婚.
也許是時間到了, 也許是遇到了對的人, 但就像我之前算過成家需要的資金, 或是朋友的ABC族群, 人生就這樣一步一步走. 有時, 來來去去還是為了錢, 跟同行也同年的朋友聊, 其實我們的收入不差, 為什麼老是覺得自己過得很窮.
可能小資熟男還是要加加油!
1/11/2012
My turn
The big day is coming, though still many months away, but it is coming.
I have been in many pre-wedding meetings, talking about the schedule, the colour, the seatings, the little things. The newly-weds were usually overwhelmed by many many little decisions they have to make. Some would take charge on everything, some would let others decide, but all were a little confused and excited.
And it is my turn now...
I have been in many pre-wedding meetings, talking about the schedule, the colour, the seatings, the little things. The newly-weds were usually overwhelmed by many many little decisions they have to make. Some would take charge on everything, some would let others decide, but all were a little confused and excited.
And it is my turn now...
12/13/2011
Steve and Chester
Chester grew up in a poor family in 1906, so he had to work at a very young age, sometimes, he would work before and after school. But it was at that young age, Chester became interested in printing and reproducing prints. While most 10 year olds want ponies and train sets, all he wanted was an office typewriter.
When he got out of Caltech with okay grades, he was in debt and the world was in great depression. He applied to 83 companies for job and finally Bell gave him a job as a researcher. But he never gave up his dream on reproducing prints.
While during his free time, he worked on just that. Unfortunately, his wife didn't share his passion and divorced him.
His work on reproducing print didn't go very far, even though he successfully reproduce something in 1938, it took the idea almost 10 years to become a viable product in the market. It was known as Xerox 914.
Since then everyone on this planet uses Chester's technology for about 500 pages a year, with 7 billion on this planet, we make 3.5 trillion copies every year.
15 years after Chester passed away, a young man walked into Xerox's office in California and borrowed the "mouse" idea from Xerox. That young man's name is Steve Jobs.
While Steve was a great promoter with millions of followers, Chester never forget his upbringing. It is said that Chester makes .16 cent for every copy we make. If he is still alive today, he will be making $5.6billion a year, about the net worth of Steve Jobs in 2010. When Chester Carlson passed away in 1968, he gave away most of his fortune. As Chester told his second wife, "my dream is to die a poor man"...
When he got out of Caltech with okay grades, he was in debt and the world was in great depression. He applied to 83 companies for job and finally Bell gave him a job as a researcher. But he never gave up his dream on reproducing prints.
While during his free time, he worked on just that. Unfortunately, his wife didn't share his passion and divorced him.
His work on reproducing print didn't go very far, even though he successfully reproduce something in 1938, it took the idea almost 10 years to become a viable product in the market. It was known as Xerox 914.
Since then everyone on this planet uses Chester's technology for about 500 pages a year, with 7 billion on this planet, we make 3.5 trillion copies every year.
15 years after Chester passed away, a young man walked into Xerox's office in California and borrowed the "mouse" idea from Xerox. That young man's name is Steve Jobs.
While Steve was a great promoter with millions of followers, Chester never forget his upbringing. It is said that Chester makes .16 cent for every copy we make. If he is still alive today, he will be making $5.6billion a year, about the net worth of Steve Jobs in 2010. When Chester Carlson passed away in 1968, he gave away most of his fortune. As Chester told his second wife, "my dream is to die a poor man"...
11/15/2011
10 reasons why you are poor
Found this on the internet:
10) They Are Unable To Manage Their State
9) They Set Impotent Goals
8) They Subscribe To "The Secret"
7) They Have Limiting Beliefs About Life And Money
6) They Choose Bad Mentors
5) They Are Controlled By Fear
4) They Try To Reinvent The Wheel
3) They Are Lousy At Business
2) They Are Uncomfortable With Words Like "Sales," Marketing," And "Persuasion"
1) They Slave Away For A Paycheck
10) They Are Unable To Manage Their State
9) They Set Impotent Goals
8) They Subscribe To "The Secret"
7) They Have Limiting Beliefs About Life And Money
6) They Choose Bad Mentors
5) They Are Controlled By Fear
4) They Try To Reinvent The Wheel
3) They Are Lousy At Business
2) They Are Uncomfortable With Words Like "Sales," Marketing," And "Persuasion"
1) They Slave Away For A Paycheck
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