Did you bring it?

Rejoining the game of romance isn't an easy thing. After a few years, a man will lose that touch that moves a woman. So, it is time to retrain.

When chatting with a few friends, some bagua will be discussed. There was a case when a well-off guy was introduced to a nice gal, all things should have gone well... and it didn't. The well-off guy brough the nice gal to boston pizza on their 2nd date. If he was still in high school, it might have been okay, but at this age? He didn't bring it.

Another case, when a creepy guy asked out a nice gal, the guy said, "why don't we meet up at the food court?". If that wasn't weird enough, the nice gal showed up at the food court, hoping the creepy guy would at least take her some place else, he didn't. Food court is for friends, but if you are interested in the gal, you have to bring it. The creepy guy didn't...

The game of romance requires a guy to behave in a certain way while a gal is required to behave in a certain way. For example, the guy should shave (most of the time), be clean, take gal to nice place, and pay the bill afterwards. The gal on the other hand, is expected to smell nice, responsive, dress up and let the guy pay the bill afterwards.

When we age, things are being added to the that list of expectations, a nice place might have to be as nice as moxie, boston pizza and white spot are no longer accepted. (unless you know the chef there and special dish is prepared) Dress up might mean in dresses, showing off assets, clothes you wear from work are no lnger accepted. (unless you work at victoria secret and a special dish is prepared - you)

At the first stage of the game, people are always expected to bring it.

You always hear women say, "i don't need fancy food/presents/flowers/shoes/car...", and I believe them. You know why? Because I believe if the guy in both cases were charming enough, they would have pulled them off.

And that is it! The restaurant, the attire, the bill paying are just added stuff, what you are expected to bring in the first stage of the game, is actually, CONFIDENCE!