For the first time in ten years, I am going to have a single's Valentine's day.
It is a little depressing to be reminded by friends and media that this commercialized holiday is approaching. To add insult to this injury, I learned today that Valentine's Day is aka "Singles Awareness Day"!?
I guess single people like me have to be "aware" of being single :).
However, dear Canadians are better off than many of us who have links to Asia and at the same time, tragically single. Look at Chinese Valentine's day, on 15th of Lunar June, so you have to be "aware" twice a year.
How about Japan? Thanks to their marketing efforts, girls have to give guys chocolates on Feb 14, while guys have to return favours on Mar 14 (white day). So, if you didn't get any chocolates on Feb 14, you will be reminded again on Mar 14, because you won’t be handing out chocolates.
Korean singles probably have the worst holiday, on Apr 14 (black day). All Korean singles will gather together to eat "black noodles" on this day. So, if you are Korean and single, spending black day at home is not bad enough, you have to go eat noodles with other single losers. :)
I had an interesting conversation with a girl recently, she does not like the idea of valentine's day, how commercialized it is, and how gifting is a selfish act, because you are expecting something in return. (actually, she is pretty much against any holiday that the Bay holds sales for, thanksgiving, xmas, father’s, mother’s, mid of month, spring clearance...)
I have to agree with what she said, and add to that. I think "love" can also be a selfish act, most people "love" because they expect to be "loved" in return. Especially when we get a little older, unconditional "love" becomes something that only exists between pets and their owners.
At this point of my life, I like to announce that being single isn't as bad as it seems, that is without any bitterness against my happy couples friends and married friends. To these friends, I wish them Happy Valentine's Day, love and cherish.
To my single friends, Happy Singles Awarenss Day, hope you will always be aware why you are single and be happy with your choice (if you choose to be single) or be faithful that you won't be having that "black noodle" this year...
2 comments:
First of all, you are being really lucky to have a single's Valentine's day in TEN years.
second, Love is selfish, other than religious love, people always expect to be loved by the ones they love, even with pets. won't you be sad if your dog doesn't like to response to you when you call him ?
and I remember in one of the Friends, Phoebe and Joey are talking about there's not such thing as non-selfish good deeds, situation may also apply here ?
:) I think I was talking about the pets giving "unconiditional" love to the owners, not the other way around, but I see what you mean.
Oh, I remember that episode, actually, I thought about that episode when I wrote this piece, coincidence... i don't think so :)
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