I am not a big fan of reality TV, because we are living in a real world, I don't understand why we have to look at a syndicated show that calls itself a reality show. Anyhow, it hit its lowest point when some genius decided to air a show called "Who wants to marry a millionare" a few years ago. Alright, it was not really a reality show, but more of a tv contest, like "Who wants to be a millionare".
I didn't watch the show, but I saw part of the commercial on tv. Basically, you have a self-proclaimed millionare who has to pick a wife out of a group of young women, all of them in wedding dresses. (talk about being desperate...)
The concept was so bad that I was surprised that the producer didn't get shot by some women activists. It was almost like picking grocery, hm... this one looks fresh, that one looks juicy... The point? It shows what are the desirable characters in men and women when it comes to marriage.
Another piece of news I read recently. In China, they have just hosted a cruise down huangpu river, with single men and women looking for romance and marriage posibilities. It was a very special group of people, according to its organizers, the men have to have at least 2 million RMB in asset (about 300k CAD), and the women? no restriction...
One of the male attendee in his fifties who got interviewed said that he was too busy with his business and no time for romance, was looking for a woman in her thirties, and beautiful.
My biggest problem with the above two stories is how we measure success for men and women. For men, how rich they are. As long as they have accumulated enough assets, age, height, weight, baldness does not matter. For women, how young they can keep theirself, they do not have to prove that they can think or make money, as long as they keep their age, weight, figures in check.
In the 21st century, it is sad to know that some of this stereotype still exists.
Finally, another piece of story (junk) I read last century. According to a study done by a TW newspaper.
The most desirable bachelors are:
1. Engineers (Software, I think)
2. Lawyers
3. Doctors
4. Accountants
5. Pilots
The most desriable bachelorettes are:
1. Teachers (Elementry school, I think)
2. Nurses
3. Flight Attendants
4. ... (can't remember)
5. ... (can't remember)
I have to point out that these bachelors are usually quite boring people, but are usually quite rich. And these bachelorettes can usually be catergorized as patient, caring, mothery types... oh, and they are the usual porn characters.
So I guess the stereotype countinues...
12/29/2006
There is this one time at the camp...
Just saw this on CNN yesterday (or ROBtv?), Merrill Lynch is holding a boot camp for people in their twenties. No no, not the band camp, not the boy scout.
These twenty something must have personal investable assets over $50 million US, they will spend 1 week at Wharton School of Business to learn how to manage/diversify/balance their investment portfolios (I thought that is my job?), how to ask for a large loan, how to write up a prenuptial agreement (!?!)...
Of course, there were only about 3 dozen people there, but if you think about it, that is at $1.8 billion in that lecture hall.
Personal wealth is deemed quite important in this materialistic world, but how wealthy is considered wealthy enough? If you ask anyone who is rich if he/she thinks he/she is rich enough? The answer is probably going to be no, greed is at play here. And greed is what drives the world, or at least, the business world.
As Gordon Gekko in "Wall Street" said the best:
"The point is, ladies and gentlemen, that: Greed, for lack of a better word, is good. Greed is right; greed works. Greed clarifies, cuts through, and captures the essence of the evolutionary spirit. Greed, in all of its forms, greed for life, for money, for love, knowledge — has marked the upward surge of mankind and greed,..."
These twenty something must have personal investable assets over $50 million US, they will spend 1 week at Wharton School of Business to learn how to manage/diversify/balance their investment portfolios (I thought that is my job?), how to ask for a large loan, how to write up a prenuptial agreement (!?!)...
Of course, there were only about 3 dozen people there, but if you think about it, that is at $1.8 billion in that lecture hall.
Personal wealth is deemed quite important in this materialistic world, but how wealthy is considered wealthy enough? If you ask anyone who is rich if he/she thinks he/she is rich enough? The answer is probably going to be no, greed is at play here. And greed is what drives the world, or at least, the business world.
As Gordon Gekko in "Wall Street" said the best:
"The point is, ladies and gentlemen, that: Greed, for lack of a better word, is good. Greed is right; greed works. Greed clarifies, cuts through, and captures the essence of the evolutionary spirit. Greed, in all of its forms, greed for life, for money, for love, knowledge — has marked the upward surge of mankind and greed,..."
12/25/2006
Merry X'mas to all of you!
Best wishes to all my friends:
To my A list friends,
hope you had a good xmas party with your family and other A list friends.
To my B list friends,
hope you had a good xmas party with your love one.
To my C list friends,
hope you had a good xmas party with your hubbie/wife.
To my D list friends,
hope you had a crappy xmas party, because you never returned my phone calls.
To my A list friends,
hope you had a good xmas party with your family and other A list friends.
To my B list friends,
hope you had a good xmas party with your love one.
To my C list friends,
hope you had a good xmas party with your hubbie/wife.
To my D list friends,
hope you had a crappy xmas party, because you never returned my phone calls.
12/22/2006
A toast to the merry married couple
Wishing you
A house full of sunshine,
Hearts full of cheer,
Love that grows deeper
each day of the year.
A house full of sunshine,
Hearts full of cheer,
Love that grows deeper
each day of the year.
12/19/2006
Save the last dance for me...
There is always something missing in taiwanese/hong kong love songs, they are always depressing, they usually are about the uncertainty in relationships. Either your love is leaving you, you are in love with someone else, or you are not sure where you are in a relationship.
What is missing are the maturity, and confidence required in a healthy relationship. Consider the following song...
Save the last dance for me
You can dance-every dance with the guy
Who gives you the eye, let him hold you tight
You can smile-every smile for the man
Who held your hand neath the pale moon light
But don't forget who's takin' you home
And in whose arms you're gonna be
So darlin' save the last dance for me
Oh I know that the musics fine
Like sparklin' wine, go and have your fun
Laugh and sing but while we're apart
Don't give your heart to anyone
And don't forget who's takin' you home
And in whose arms you're gonna be
So darlin' save the last dance for me
Baby don't you know I love you so
Can't you feel it when we touch
I will never, never let you go
I love you oh so much
You can dance, go and carry on
Till the night is gone
And it's time to go
If he asks if you're all alone
Can he walk you home, you must tell him no
'Cause don't forget who's taking you home
And in whose arms you're gonna be
Save the last dance for me
Oh I know that the musics fine
Like sparklin' wine, go and have your fun
Laugh and sing but while we're apart
Don't give your heart to anyone
And don't forget who's takin' you home
And in whose arms you're gonna be
So darlin' save the last dance for me
So don't forget who's taking you home
Or in whose arms you're gonna be
So darling, save the last dance for me
Ooooh
Baby won't you save the last dance for me.
You make the promise that you save the last dance for me.
Save the last dance
The very last dance
For me!
This is recently performed by Michael Buble. The narrator is telling the girl to go out and have fun with anyone she feels like, but at the end of the night, to save that one last dance for him.
If the same story was done in mandarin/cantonese, it might be very different. You can imagine a guy pleaing to the girl, please don't go, but if you have to go, please don't dance with other guys, but if you have to dance with others, don't go home with them, but you have to go home with them... please love me... please please...
Trust requires certain maturity and confidence, especially confidence. Just like in the song, when performed by Mr. Buble, you can tell that the narrator is very confident that she will be back for the good stuff at the end of the night.
And, I see that as the biggest difference between a mature relationship and a chinese/taiwanese pop song relationship.
Btw, the original song done in the 60s was about this war veteran who lost his legs, telling his wife who love to dance, to have fun, but remember to come back home to him...
What is missing are the maturity, and confidence required in a healthy relationship. Consider the following song...
Save the last dance for me
You can dance-every dance with the guy
Who gives you the eye, let him hold you tight
You can smile-every smile for the man
Who held your hand neath the pale moon light
But don't forget who's takin' you home
And in whose arms you're gonna be
So darlin' save the last dance for me
Oh I know that the musics fine
Like sparklin' wine, go and have your fun
Laugh and sing but while we're apart
Don't give your heart to anyone
And don't forget who's takin' you home
And in whose arms you're gonna be
So darlin' save the last dance for me
Baby don't you know I love you so
Can't you feel it when we touch
I will never, never let you go
I love you oh so much
You can dance, go and carry on
Till the night is gone
And it's time to go
If he asks if you're all alone
Can he walk you home, you must tell him no
'Cause don't forget who's taking you home
And in whose arms you're gonna be
Save the last dance for me
Oh I know that the musics fine
Like sparklin' wine, go and have your fun
Laugh and sing but while we're apart
Don't give your heart to anyone
And don't forget who's takin' you home
And in whose arms you're gonna be
So darlin' save the last dance for me
So don't forget who's taking you home
Or in whose arms you're gonna be
So darling, save the last dance for me
Ooooh
Baby won't you save the last dance for me.
You make the promise that you save the last dance for me.
Save the last dance
The very last dance
For me!
This is recently performed by Michael Buble. The narrator is telling the girl to go out and have fun with anyone she feels like, but at the end of the night, to save that one last dance for him.
If the same story was done in mandarin/cantonese, it might be very different. You can imagine a guy pleaing to the girl, please don't go, but if you have to go, please don't dance with other guys, but if you have to dance with others, don't go home with them, but you have to go home with them... please love me... please please...
Trust requires certain maturity and confidence, especially confidence. Just like in the song, when performed by Mr. Buble, you can tell that the narrator is very confident that she will be back for the good stuff at the end of the night.
And, I see that as the biggest difference between a mature relationship and a chinese/taiwanese pop song relationship.
Btw, the original song done in the 60s was about this war veteran who lost his legs, telling his wife who love to dance, to have fun, but remember to come back home to him...
12/14/2006
舊情敵
幾個月前，我去公司附近的MALL吃午餐，在等待的時候，習慣性的東張西望。在一樓的攤位中，看見了我初戀時期的舊情敵...
在一些運動服裝中，我依悉認得出他的臉，看起來胖了些，看起來老了些。他坐在電腦前，打了一個呵欠，看來生意不是太好。我看著他，初戀時候的情節在腦海中一頁頁翻過。他是我初戀對象當時的男朋友，當初戀離開他的時候，他唱了許志安的心血給我的初戀聽...
心血
發覺你變得敷衍我 你的手逃避觸摸到我
若晚上和我坐 亦無言無話像厭我
你可知心多麼不好過麼
但你共我 同渡過生命悲傷歡暢
每次風霜把我們越擦亮
我問你難道你捨得這些心血
棄掉我倆 求你別這樣
誰如我愛你那麼多 別當我猶如路過
為何仍然贈我這苦楚
誰如我愛你那麼多 原來從未認識我
還是未真過
何故你似再也不喜歡我
縱相擁如陌生者一個 是我們完了吧
或旁人隨便代替我 我怕知
知得多增添痛楚
誰如我愛你那麼多 別當我猶如路過
為何仍然贈我這苦楚
誰如我愛你那麼多 原來從未認識我
還是未真過
每當我聽到'求你別這樣'的時候，總會想到一個哭泣的男孩...
後來，我和我的初戀分手幾個月後，我和她在夜市中看見了我的舊情敵在擺攤，我們聊了幾句，我們已經有各自的歸宿，覺得自己好像都長大了很多。
再度MALL裡遇到他的時候，覺得我們都老很多了。過幾個月，那個攤位已經不見了，不知道他有沒有看見我，不知道他是不是也覺得我也老了很多?
在一些運動服裝中，我依悉認得出他的臉，看起來胖了些，看起來老了些。他坐在電腦前，打了一個呵欠，看來生意不是太好。我看著他，初戀時候的情節在腦海中一頁頁翻過。他是我初戀對象當時的男朋友，當初戀離開他的時候，他唱了許志安的心血給我的初戀聽...
心血
發覺你變得敷衍我 你的手逃避觸摸到我
若晚上和我坐 亦無言無話像厭我
你可知心多麼不好過麼
但你共我 同渡過生命悲傷歡暢
每次風霜把我們越擦亮
我問你難道你捨得這些心血
棄掉我倆 求你別這樣
誰如我愛你那麼多 別當我猶如路過
為何仍然贈我這苦楚
誰如我愛你那麼多 原來從未認識我
還是未真過
何故你似再也不喜歡我
縱相擁如陌生者一個 是我們完了吧
或旁人隨便代替我 我怕知
知得多增添痛楚
誰如我愛你那麼多 別當我猶如路過
為何仍然贈我這苦楚
誰如我愛你那麼多 原來從未認識我
還是未真過
每當我聽到'求你別這樣'的時候，總會想到一個哭泣的男孩...
後來，我和我的初戀分手幾個月後，我和她在夜市中看見了我的舊情敵在擺攤，我們聊了幾句，我們已經有各自的歸宿，覺得自己好像都長大了很多。
再度MALL裡遇到他的時候，覺得我們都老很多了。過幾個月，那個攤位已經不見了，不知道他有沒有看見我，不知道他是不是也覺得我也老了很多?
12/11/2006
溫哥華的雪
今年的冬天好像來的特別早，女孩看著窗外已經下了一天一夜的雪，越看越是心煩。
她看手中的電話，越洋號碼只撥了一半，猶豫著要不要打給他…
嘆了口氣，她放下電話，幫自己煮了一杯咖啡，看著窗外白色的世界。她想起自己從來都不喜歡喝咖啡，但自從遇到他後，已經習慣每個早上喝一杯。
台灣應該是晚上十點，現在打去應該不會太晚…
回想三個月前，他興高采烈的在電話上告訴她年底要結婚，她到現在都還不很確定該有怎樣的反應。他在電話裡，email裡不斷的邀請她回去，他很希望她可以參加他的婚禮。她一口拒絕了，回去要以什麼身分? 自己是不是可以忍受的住?
但他的email一封一封的來，有他和她的婚紗照，她一封都沒有回，一封都沒有看。她是很確定已經不再愛他，但離可以祝福他，還有一段距離。
不是的，那並不是她的初戀，也不是她最愛的，也不是她最忘不了的，只是結束太過愕然，好像兩人之間還沒有一個完美的句點。回憶他們相遇的季節，好像也是下雪的時候，從相遇到相戀，從相戀到分開，好像雪都還沒有機會溶化。
為什麼喜歡他，她已經不大記得了，他像大孩子的個性，倒是記得清清楚楚，他總是有意無意的挑起她心中的漣洟，但說過後兩天就忘了乾乾淨淨。五個月前見到他，他還說他還是很喜歡她，一直忘不了她，她那時只有一笑置之，不做回應。 果然，兩個月後就接到他的喜訊。
她放下手中的咖啡，一口氣撥了他的電話，響了幾聲，跳到了語音信箱，她留下祝福的口訊，不外乎是白頭偕老，早生貴子一類的話，順便道歉她因為工作關係不能參加他的婚禮。
因為工作? 她自己都不信的理由，她忍不住輕聲一笑。手上的電話響了起來，是他，那一頭聽起來人聲吵雜，他說朋友們要在他單身的最後一晚，把他灌到不行，還好她的電話救了他一命。她聽他嘮嘮叨叨的抱怨奔東走西為婚禮而忙碌， 她感覺到時間好像在他們之間流過，過去的事已經過去了，他用半醉半醒的聲音說她不能回來，他好難過，真希望她能在那祝福他的幸福。不必了吧，她想，兩條線交叉而過，不再相逢，又何必強求?
掛了電話，她看窗外的雪好像已經沒有那麼煩人。明天改喝綠茶吧，她告訴自己…
她才想起，她忘了告訴他溫哥華的大雪…
她看手中的電話，越洋號碼只撥了一半，猶豫著要不要打給他…
嘆了口氣，她放下電話，幫自己煮了一杯咖啡，看著窗外白色的世界。她想起自己從來都不喜歡喝咖啡，但自從遇到他後，已經習慣每個早上喝一杯。
台灣應該是晚上十點，現在打去應該不會太晚…
回想三個月前，他興高采烈的在電話上告訴她年底要結婚，她到現在都還不很確定該有怎樣的反應。他在電話裡，email裡不斷的邀請她回去，他很希望她可以參加他的婚禮。她一口拒絕了，回去要以什麼身分? 自己是不是可以忍受的住?
但他的email一封一封的來，有他和她的婚紗照，她一封都沒有回，一封都沒有看。她是很確定已經不再愛他，但離可以祝福他，還有一段距離。
不是的，那並不是她的初戀，也不是她最愛的，也不是她最忘不了的，只是結束太過愕然，好像兩人之間還沒有一個完美的句點。回憶他們相遇的季節，好像也是下雪的時候，從相遇到相戀，從相戀到分開，好像雪都還沒有機會溶化。
為什麼喜歡他，她已經不大記得了，他像大孩子的個性，倒是記得清清楚楚，他總是有意無意的挑起她心中的漣洟，但說過後兩天就忘了乾乾淨淨。五個月前見到他，他還說他還是很喜歡她，一直忘不了她，她那時只有一笑置之，不做回應。 果然，兩個月後就接到他的喜訊。
她放下手中的咖啡，一口氣撥了他的電話，響了幾聲，跳到了語音信箱，她留下祝福的口訊，不外乎是白頭偕老，早生貴子一類的話，順便道歉她因為工作關係不能參加他的婚禮。
因為工作? 她自己都不信的理由，她忍不住輕聲一笑。手上的電話響了起來，是他，那一頭聽起來人聲吵雜，他說朋友們要在他單身的最後一晚，把他灌到不行，還好她的電話救了他一命。她聽他嘮嘮叨叨的抱怨奔東走西為婚禮而忙碌， 她感覺到時間好像在他們之間流過，過去的事已經過去了，他用半醉半醒的聲音說她不能回來，他好難過，真希望她能在那祝福他的幸福。不必了吧，她想，兩條線交叉而過，不再相逢，又何必強求?
掛了電話，她看窗外的雪好像已經沒有那麼煩人。明天改喝綠茶吧，她告訴自己…
她才想起，她忘了告訴他溫哥華的大雪…
12/07/2006
Lambofsilence, meet James Yang
A few years back, out of boredom, I googled myself, and found there is actually a guy with the same name, and a website named after him (or me) www.jamesyang.com.
Last month, I actually found James Yang's blog on my friend's blogspot link, he is using blogspot as well! Taking a second look at James Yang's website, he is a graphic designer who lives in New York, has sculpture in museum, done children's book, and did I mention living in New York?
To find someone with the same name living a different life in a different city is quite interesting. Then, to find that person might be 2 degree seperation from you is kind of creepy. But it is interesting though, I wonder what happens if this person looks/acts like me? Would I be envious of his life?
By the way, I have done search on lambofsilence as well, this time, I found myself. :)
Last month, I actually found James Yang's blog on my friend's blogspot link, he is using blogspot as well! Taking a second look at James Yang's website, he is a graphic designer who lives in New York, has sculpture in museum, done children's book, and did I mention living in New York?
To find someone with the same name living a different life in a different city is quite interesting. Then, to find that person might be 2 degree seperation from you is kind of creepy. But it is interesting though, I wonder what happens if this person looks/acts like me? Would I be envious of his life?
By the way, I have done search on lambofsilence as well, this time, I found myself. :)
12/05/2006
Breakfast at Tiffany.... in Vancouver
Tiffany & Co is opening its newest standalone store on alberni and burrard in downtown Vancouver. Of course its baby blue boxes and whats inside the boxes are what many ladies and girls want for Xmas. This grand opening features a $500,000 blue diamond ring and $100,000 diamond necklace. Funny though, if you have both, you still cannot buy a house in vancouver. According the the latest figure, the average housing price in Vancouver is $700,000.
People talk about breakfast at Tiffany, for those who haven't seen this film, I highly recommend it. Other than the charming love story, Audrey Hepburn's character is very recognizable.
Holly played by Audrey, is a young woman in her twenties, ran away from a rural home where she was married at 14. She wants to be in films, so she moved to Hollywood, then to New York. When that doesn't work out, she then decides to get married, to a rich man from brazil.
Paul played by George Peppard, is a young writer who has problem writing novels, instead, he lives on a much older married woman.
When they met, things got interesting, Holly gets into trouble, and keeps on trying new things. Paul gets inspired and started writing his novels, which finally got published.
They have different ways to handle their lives when they feel it wasn't a life they wanted. Holly was the reason Paul needed to get out of his routine, and Holly denies any reason (including Paul and her nameless cat) for her to settle down.
The film ends in a classic hollywood way, a short chase in the rain, and hug and kiss. Although the original novel by Truman Capote did not have a romantic happy ending, and Marilyn Monroe was supposed to play Holly.
It is great to see Holly finally stopped running away from herself, but I still see some girls running, running away from themselves...
People talk about breakfast at Tiffany, for those who haven't seen this film, I highly recommend it. Other than the charming love story, Audrey Hepburn's character is very recognizable.
Holly played by Audrey, is a young woman in her twenties, ran away from a rural home where she was married at 14. She wants to be in films, so she moved to Hollywood, then to New York. When that doesn't work out, she then decides to get married, to a rich man from brazil.
Paul played by George Peppard, is a young writer who has problem writing novels, instead, he lives on a much older married woman.
When they met, things got interesting, Holly gets into trouble, and keeps on trying new things. Paul gets inspired and started writing his novels, which finally got published.
They have different ways to handle their lives when they feel it wasn't a life they wanted. Holly was the reason Paul needed to get out of his routine, and Holly denies any reason (including Paul and her nameless cat) for her to settle down.
The film ends in a classic hollywood way, a short chase in the rain, and hug and kiss. Although the original novel by Truman Capote did not have a romantic happy ending, and Marilyn Monroe was supposed to play Holly.
It is great to see Holly finally stopped running away from herself, but I still see some girls running, running away from themselves...
11/22/2006
下一個永遠
記得某次失戀的時候，有個朋友在網上送了一首歌給我，下一個永遠。我聽了之後跟我朋友說她是想要我哭死嗎，沒事給我這麼悲的歌做什麼。朋友沒有回應，倒是問我為什麼叫下一個永遠? 永遠不就是永遠嗎? 如果要找下一個，上一個就不是永遠啦~
這首歌是很標準的張信哲，很哀怨，又什麼都不敢做，連恨都不敢。現在我會有點唾棄這種愛情，但又不得不思考它的邏輯，什麼是下一個永遠?
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那天 是一條界線 你忘了好好說再見
只留下背影是我腦海經典的畫面
我獨自站在曾經愛與心痛的邊緣
在城市里流漣 卻看不見 下個永遠
明天過後如果變成另外一個人
今天是我最後做個愛你的罪人
從此以後忘了你是我最愛的人
不要再一直留在原地回憶著傷痕
時間 原來就是考驗 讓過去都成了紀念
就像在手心長出了一塊死去的繭
麻痹了痛的感覺卻還是留在那邊
陪著我到未來 繼續尋找下個永遠
希望醒來以後就是全新一個人
日日夜夜不再為愛付出那麼深
希望可以忘了你是我最愛的人
能像你一樣推開大門就去愛別人
多希望 有天偶然再遇見
我們都各自擁抱 下一個永遠
明天過後如果變成另外一個人
今天我就是最後做個愛你的罪人
從此以後忘了你是我最愛的人
不要再一直留在原地回憶著傷痕
希望醒來以後就是全新一個人
日日夜夜不再為愛付出那么深
希望可以忘了你是我最愛的人
要像你一樣推開大門就去愛別人
希望有一天 偶然能在回憶遇見
我們都走到下一個永遠
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我想大部分的人談戀愛都是希望美好，可以天長地久，但真正可以做到永永遠遠是不可能的，就算結婚也不過是幾十年，兩個只要有一個先離開世間，永遠就不成立了。
但我們都還是相信這段愛情是永遠，所以當它不是永遠的時候，我們就希望下一段愛情是永遠，是積極? 還是消極? 是童話? 還是天方夜譚?
只有你自己可以回答…
這首歌是很標準的張信哲，很哀怨，又什麼都不敢做，連恨都不敢。現在我會有點唾棄這種愛情，但又不得不思考它的邏輯，什麼是下一個永遠?
______________________________
那天 是一條界線 你忘了好好說再見
只留下背影是我腦海經典的畫面
我獨自站在曾經愛與心痛的邊緣
在城市里流漣 卻看不見 下個永遠
明天過後如果變成另外一個人
今天是我最後做個愛你的罪人
從此以後忘了你是我最愛的人
不要再一直留在原地回憶著傷痕
時間 原來就是考驗 讓過去都成了紀念
就像在手心長出了一塊死去的繭
麻痹了痛的感覺卻還是留在那邊
陪著我到未來 繼續尋找下個永遠
希望醒來以後就是全新一個人
日日夜夜不再為愛付出那麼深
希望可以忘了你是我最愛的人
能像你一樣推開大門就去愛別人
多希望 有天偶然再遇見
我們都各自擁抱 下一個永遠
明天過後如果變成另外一個人
今天我就是最後做個愛你的罪人
從此以後忘了你是我最愛的人
不要再一直留在原地回憶著傷痕
希望醒來以後就是全新一個人
日日夜夜不再為愛付出那么深
希望可以忘了你是我最愛的人
要像你一樣推開大門就去愛別人
希望有一天 偶然能在回憶遇見
我們都走到下一個永遠
____________________________
我想大部分的人談戀愛都是希望美好，可以天長地久，但真正可以做到永永遠遠是不可能的，就算結婚也不過是幾十年，兩個只要有一個先離開世間，永遠就不成立了。
但我們都還是相信這段愛情是永遠，所以當它不是永遠的時候，我們就希望下一段愛情是永遠，是積極? 還是消極? 是童話? 還是天方夜譚?
只有你自己可以回答…
11/18/2006
給想不開的女人...
身為妳的朋友，我真的很擔心，為他做了那麼多，妳到底得到了什麼?
他的心不會因為你的付出而改變，他的人更不會為你的淚停留。
妳問我他為什麼? 我只能說他不愛妳，真的不夠愛妳，至少他愛妳沒有多過愛他自己，也許他從來沒有把妳當作可以停留的對象。妳又問，是不是他還沒有到那個時候? 我不能回答，但我肯定，如果妳要等，會是很久的一段時間，妳會賠上妳的青春，也許還是得不到他。相信我，也有愛過我的女人，希望時間能改變我，結果她等了多年，我還是沒有辦法給她什麼...
看看妳為他身心皆傷，值得嗎? 妳有開心嗎?
妳曾說過妳要簡簡單單的愛，但妳有做到嗎? 妳現在的愛一點都不簡單，而是火花四濺，傷的又只有妳，不值得也不公平...
妳也不是小女孩了，要為自己的幸福負責，如果不開心，就要設法讓自己開心，妳有許多未來，不必為現在折磨，妳有許多可能，不必為他而失去快樂，除非，妳要的就是轟轟烈烈的不快樂...
他的心不會因為你的付出而改變，他的人更不會為你的淚停留。
妳問我他為什麼? 我只能說他不愛妳，真的不夠愛妳，至少他愛妳沒有多過愛他自己，也許他從來沒有把妳當作可以停留的對象。妳又問，是不是他還沒有到那個時候? 我不能回答，但我肯定，如果妳要等，會是很久的一段時間，妳會賠上妳的青春，也許還是得不到他。相信我，也有愛過我的女人，希望時間能改變我，結果她等了多年，我還是沒有辦法給她什麼...
看看妳為他身心皆傷，值得嗎? 妳有開心嗎?
妳曾說過妳要簡簡單單的愛，但妳有做到嗎? 妳現在的愛一點都不簡單，而是火花四濺，傷的又只有妳，不值得也不公平...
妳也不是小女孩了，要為自己的幸福負責，如果不開心，就要設法讓自己開心，妳有許多未來，不必為現在折磨，妳有許多可能，不必為他而失去快樂，除非，妳要的就是轟轟烈烈的不快樂...
11/15/2006
給還是男孩的男人...
不要難過，你知道該發生的還是會發生，不要強求。
我知道你曾經轟轟烈烈的愛過，我知道你真的有試過去挽回，但只能怪你們的時間不對，雖然擦身而過會很可惜，但希望你有學到些什麼，像是學到如何去愛別人，如何去愛自己。
多為自己想想，不用擔心她過得好不好，相信我，她沒有你也是會過得很好。想想，你是不是每次感情都是隨波逐流? 你有沒有想過自己未來怎麼走? 你已經不可再理直氣壯的說，你現在不用想這麼多，你還年輕...
是的，你還年輕，有些事好像有些領悟，有些是好像抓的住，但大部分的事情，你一個都抓不住。
多為自己想想，不用煩惱她對你的感情還在不在，相信我，她如果還愛你，她不會選擇現在離開你。如果你是她，你會喜歡看見成天為感情煩惱的男人嗎?
把自己投入工作也好，放縱自己也好，現在你的痛，明天你忘記，明天你會懷念今天的真...
我不能保證下一個會更好，但我保證你會很愛她，她也會很愛你，你們會找到一起努力的目標。雖然現在很難相信，但我知道你會找回自己，找到你的愛...
我知道你曾經轟轟烈烈的愛過，我知道你真的有試過去挽回，但只能怪你們的時間不對，雖然擦身而過會很可惜，但希望你有學到些什麼，像是學到如何去愛別人，如何去愛自己。
多為自己想想，不用擔心她過得好不好，相信我，她沒有你也是會過得很好。想想，你是不是每次感情都是隨波逐流? 你有沒有想過自己未來怎麼走? 你已經不可再理直氣壯的說，你現在不用想這麼多，你還年輕...
是的，你還年輕，有些事好像有些領悟，有些是好像抓的住，但大部分的事情，你一個都抓不住。
多為自己想想，不用煩惱她對你的感情還在不在，相信我，她如果還愛你，她不會選擇現在離開你。如果你是她，你會喜歡看見成天為感情煩惱的男人嗎?
把自己投入工作也好，放縱自己也好，現在你的痛，明天你忘記，明天你會懷念今天的真...
我不能保證下一個會更好，但我保證你會很愛她，她也會很愛你，你們會找到一起努力的目標。雖然現在很難相信，但我知道你會找回自己，找到你的愛...
11/14/2006
Mr. Lamb, I am ordering you to go into relationship rehab...
For the past few months, it has been a little slow on my relationship side. That is not to say that nothing is happening, a few things happened, and I have hurt some along the way.
So I am putting myself on rehab. I have the tendency to fall for girls who are in trouble, then I realize that shouldn't be what I am looking for. The knight in shiny armor does not mean happily ever after, unfortunately.
One of my friend asked, what does it mean by putting your relationship on rehab? I guess the answer is to take things slowly, very slowly, and do not take candies from a stranger if I don't like the stranger...
Another thing though, taking my relationship on rehab means I won't be hurting other souls.
When I stop looking for troubled girls, I can come out of rehab as a clean man...
So I am putting myself on rehab. I have the tendency to fall for girls who are in trouble, then I realize that shouldn't be what I am looking for. The knight in shiny armor does not mean happily ever after, unfortunately.
One of my friend asked, what does it mean by putting your relationship on rehab? I guess the answer is to take things slowly, very slowly, and do not take candies from a stranger if I don't like the stranger...
Another thing though, taking my relationship on rehab means I won't be hurting other souls.
When I stop looking for troubled girls, I can come out of rehab as a clean man...
11/10/2006
以前SFU有個台灣同學會 之 男生加加油篇...
Betty 和他的老公最近回溫哥華，算算又是一年，過去一年，嫁的嫁，生的生，好多人都不在溫哥華了。和久不見的Linda通電話時，感嘆大家都不在溫哥華啦~
President: Graham，現在高雄家裡幫忙，常常忙到爛掉，不過和他的初戀(好像是)幸福快樂中。
Exteranl VP: Linda，在溫哥華的某大3C商店總公司上班，和老公幸福快樂。
Internal VP: Karen，剛考完精算師的考試，年底將和老公回流台灣。
Treasurer: Nancy，久久沒見到，上次見到是在朋友婚禮，好像生第二個小孩了。
External Secretary: Brian，在軟體公司上班，現在好像是組長，穩定感情。
Internal Secretary: Patrick，沒連絡，有人知道他在台灣最近如何?
Public Relation: Betty，好像住在宜蘭，婚後生活幸福，平常喜歡在東西上貼亮亮的東西。
Public Relation: Kent，現在和我同行啦，感情穩定，被我抓去青年商會，發達中請叫他陳董。
Communication: Ken，沒連絡，有人知道他在中國最近如何?
Activity Director: Vicky，聽說在台灣也是媽媽啦。
Activity Director: Kevin，小孩都快一歲，很可愛(比爸爸可愛多了)。
我和Linda聊著，又發現五個女生都嫁的幸福快樂，男生只有兩個結了婚，看來男生要加加油，不過看大家的感情都很穩定，覺得也很安慰，當年的好夥伴都過得很好...
President: Graham，現在高雄家裡幫忙，常常忙到爛掉，不過和他的初戀(好像是)幸福快樂中。
Exteranl VP: Linda，在溫哥華的某大3C商店總公司上班，和老公幸福快樂。
Internal VP: Karen，剛考完精算師的考試，年底將和老公回流台灣。
Treasurer: Nancy，久久沒見到，上次見到是在朋友婚禮，好像生第二個小孩了。
External Secretary: Brian，在軟體公司上班，現在好像是組長，穩定感情。
Internal Secretary: Patrick，沒連絡，有人知道他在台灣最近如何?
Public Relation: Betty，好像住在宜蘭，婚後生活幸福，平常喜歡在東西上貼亮亮的東西。
Public Relation: Kent，現在和我同行啦，感情穩定，被我抓去青年商會，發達中請叫他陳董。
Communication: Ken，沒連絡，有人知道他在中國最近如何?
Activity Director: Vicky，聽說在台灣也是媽媽啦。
Activity Director: Kevin，小孩都快一歲，很可愛(比爸爸可愛多了)。
我和Linda聊著，又發現五個女生都嫁的幸福快樂，男生只有兩個結了婚，看來男生要加加油，不過看大家的感情都很穩定，覺得也很安慰，當年的好夥伴都過得很好...
11/09/2006
Vi Veri Veniversum Vivus Vici!
In the movie V for Vendetta. The main character although evil, is quite interesting, he has similar dark and twisted mind as Phantom of the Opera, but his ambition is a lot bigger.
He said, "Vi Veri Veniversum Vivus Vici", it is a phrase from Christopher Marlowe's The Tragical History of Doctor Faustus. It is a play on a guy who trades his soul for material gains. He ended up wasting all his skills and enternally damned.
The phrase, however, is a great motto.
It means "By the power of truth, I, while living, have conquered the universe"!
He said, "Vi Veri Veniversum Vivus Vici", it is a phrase from Christopher Marlowe's The Tragical History of Doctor Faustus. It is a play on a guy who trades his soul for material gains. He ended up wasting all his skills and enternally damned.
The phrase, however, is a great motto.
It means "By the power of truth, I, while living, have conquered the universe"!
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