Love is to let go?

There is an interesting topic. One friend just broke up with his girlfriend, the reason? He does not see himself providing something (eg. marriage) that the girl wants right now.

I could understand that, I was there once, I know that if I wanted, I could let the relationship drag on for another few years, but who knows if I would be ready then. I thought the right thing to do was to let go of the things I cannot keep. It would have been selfish just because I wanted her there, even though I knew I was just wasting her time.

Years after, I thought about the time I let go, I thought the only thing I might have done differently would be to have let her go earlier. Why? Because after I understand what I want, I realize I really have wasted many years of her life.

MSS on the other hand, does not agree. She thinks that if I really love someone, I should try my best to accommodate that someone's needs. It would just be selfish (I love myself more than her) to let her go and not trying to accommodate.

But that is the thing, I thought we all have our goals and things we want to do in life, if our goals are different, does accommodating others will make someone happier to be in a relationship? Would helping your love one achieving his/her goals while forgoing your own goals be more rewarding?

I guess it could go down to some fundamental difference in ones background, religions, family, friends... Then again, should relationships be this complicated?