A recent conversation with my friend, she told me a tale of betrayal, not once but twice. Usually, when this type of thing happened, telling her to leave the man is my suggestion, because we are dealing with a habitual action instead of "accidents".
However, she told me, maybe, maybe it was her fault to ignore him, maybe it was her fault that the man cheated on her, again...
It is strange to see that a few months back, same woman was angry and sad about his first betrayal. Now, she is just sad and accepting the man. The advice she had received from her family? "you have to trust the man, because he is a man"
Honestly, I don't understand what her family meant by "because he is a man", since when it is okay for a man to cheat, but not okay for a woman to cheat? Perhaps, it is one of the thing that society generally accept as a regular male behaviour, or worse, taboo for females.
Another conversation with another friend, she was commenting on how both men and women will have the same view on certain behaviour. For example, a flirtatious woman is a "slut", but a flirtatious man is "horny" at the worst. Also, how society would scrutinize a female "homewrecker" more than a male "homewrecker"...
When we were brought up, we were been taught what actions are "moral", and what actions are "immoral". But as we age, black and white start to blend, more things are becoming grey, or somewhat acceptable.
When a close friend describe what working environment is like in Taipei, he said, "if you were to work over here, there will be girls lining up for you, without any consequences, without and burdens, because girls are okay with casual sexual encounters here"
I guess we are back to the 70s again...
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I'm completely taken aback. That's all I'm going to say, or else I'm going to go on for days and writing rant-essays in your comments like I did to Jean's.
Kyrre is taken aback by the blatant sexism displayed by the family of the woman. Kyrre doesn't like double standards-- different behaviours and actions labelled feminine or masculine. It drives Kyrre insane because it is so outdated and unfair.
Kyrre should stop writing in third person.
Additionally, I find it sad and horrific that the woman's family would advise her against common logic and sense, seemingly leading her to more pain and heartbreak.
Of course, the argument can be made that I don't know these folks. True, but honestly, "...because he is a man" isn't really much of a reason to stay with someone.
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