Personally, I always find it very difficult to define where you are in a relationship. Do you like the person or do you love the person? It is important to know where you are in a relationship.
You know it might look romantic in a movie, when a man says to a woman, "I think you are the one and I Love you", on their first date. In real life, you will probably see that woman screaming and running away.
There are certain things that are appropriate to do at certain stage of relationship. Such as the "L" word (love), and the "F" word (future). But how do we define where we are and what are appropriate?
A relationship is like a hike on the mountain, hopefully towards someplace beautiful. While trying your best to avoid the cliffs and ditches (most relationships end up in one of those two places). The hike becomes more difficult when you both are in a dense fog. You are not sure the one you are with is ahead of you, beside you or behind you. If you cannot see that person around you and you receive no replies when you call out his/her name, you will feel lost and lonely.
The best practice to solve this problem? Reach your hand out and hold the other peron's hand, make sure both of you are comfortable where you are right now. Heck, it is better having two in the ditch then just you in the ditch. Communication is the key, so you can adjust your pace.
The worst type of loneliness is feeling lonely when you are in a relationship...
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